When he gets home he does one of 3 things, he either goes outside and talks to the neighbors (we live in an apt complex) and watches the kids play *I will sometimes join him but I usually her ignored so I stay inside*, or he finds something to work on inside the apt or in/on his truck, or he'll say he's gonna spend time with me and then goes to sleep in his chair instead. To be fair, I understand how hard he works and in turn how tired he is and sometimes he can't help but fall asleep. But there are times where I'll ask him to watch xyz with me, talk etc and all the sudden he's falling asleep and if I ask him to sit up and try to stay awake bc I want to spend time together, it seems like he intentionally goes to sleep.
We were arguing abt how much he's working and how he has to learn how to balance his time btwn work kids and me and he told me that both the kids playing outside and his job are more important than spending time with me. Tbh I don't remember all that was said but he ended up looking at me and said if it came to it he'd leave me over his job.... I NEVER asked him to do anything different in re to his job. Not take a day off, Fo find a different one, taking a long lunch, leave early etc... So I have no idea where that case from.
He even told me I was being horrible bc I was calmly telling him I'm lonely and need some quality time with him. I'd even do stuff he wants to do within reason (he thinks deep cleaning or sitting in the same room playing on our phones or watching re-runs that I can't talk thru, is "QUALITY TIME"... Ugh
