I'm mad she isn't coming

[Guest]

And I know it's probably hormones but yeah I am upset.

I invited my sister to my baby shower and she isn't coming.

She said she doesn't have plans, just that *Baby showers aren't my thing.*

Well that's funny because you've been to all the other ones in our family for the last 2 years but now when it's my turn it's not your thing? We haven't had a lot, we have had 2 in 2 years, so it's not been one after another and she's burned out.

She has 3 kids and had a shower for each one. I went to every one of those and bought her nice gifts each time. This is the only baby shower I will ever have. Due to medical reasons I will not be having more children after this one and I have never had a baby shower before. And her kids are all young adults now so it's not about a babysitter thing, etc.

I don't even care if people bring gifts. A baby shower is about celebrating the baby and being together with friends and family. No gift needed and I specified that to everyone because I know not everyone has money for a gift.

I'm just irritated she declined to come to mine. The ones she went to were for distant family members-like second cousins, etc but she can't come to mine and I'm her sister!

[MrsDavidB]

That would hurt me as well.

[famousglm714]

If you two are close I'd be upset too. Her excuse is bs. I didn't even like going to my own shower, lol, but I happily went to SIL's because I was excited about my nephew. She's a dick and I'd tell her so.

[LuckyEightWow]

Did you tell her you thought she was being a shitty sister?

My feeling would be hurt, too. I also would t just be like ‘oh okay’. She’d know she hurt my feelings.

[Vegaswife2011]

That would hurt my feelings too.

[CotterpinDoozer]

I can see how that would bother you, especially if you two are close.

[agander2017]

That would hurt my feelings too. Have you tried talking to her about it? There has to be a reason. Maybe she's going through something personal and she's not really up for it.

[cellomom26]

That is a very hurtful and selfish thing to do. She is a hypocrite, pure and simple.

I'm sorry, I hope you have a great time at your shower with people who are sincerely excited for you.

[Olioxenfree]

It's understandable to be upset. Even if it's not her thing, sometimes we do things we don't super enjoy because they are important to the people we love. It's making a basic effort and she is being selfish.

[Aislinn]

I hate showers. I hate bridal showers (I didn't even have a bridal shower) and baby showers. I can think of much better things to do with my time, BUT I go because everything doesn't have to be about me. Lol I love the people the showers are for, so I plaster a smile on my face, get a beautiful gift and suck it up.