My ex is having a hard time understanding that child support payments have changed

[Anonymous 1]

I got a new job and my pay went from biweekly to semi monthly. So instead of getting paid every two weeks on Friday I get paid twice a month on the 5th and the 20th. I pay him child support (which I think is BS anyway because we have 50/50 custody but that is a whole other discuss) every paycheck because he requested that instead of monthly payments.

It's been a few months now and every time he doesn't get his child support payment when he thinks he should he calls me and leaves me a mean voice message or sends me a mean text. He says I'm a deadbeat and trying to play him and the system.

He's overall not an unintelligent person but this is a bunch of bullshit. It's like for some reason he just can't understand that biweekly and semimonthly are not the same thing. I'm about ready to block him for awhile.

[Anonymous 2]

Do you go through child support enforcement? Or do you pay him directly? I'd take these voicemails to court and see what can be done.

[MonarchMom]

Do you send the payments yourself? If that is the case you should adhere to the language of the support order. If it states "every two weeks" then you should continue that pattern, regardless of when you are paid. Just budget accordingly to make the required payments.

If the support order states it is deducted from your pay and sent via the child support system, then I assume that is happening still. In that case send him a copy of the paperwork from your employer showing the change to the pay periods. If you send it by certified mail you will have documentation that he has been informed.

[Anonymous 1]

Do you go through child support enforcement? Or do you pay him directly? I'd take these voicemails to court and see what can be done.

It's all set up through the state and comes out automatically.

It's honestly not worth the time to go to court it's just annoying.

[Anonymous 1]

It comes out automatically. The court order says I have to pay every paycheck. I'd rather just do it monthly but he wanted it every paycheck.

I have documentation proving he's been informed. He was told before I even switched jobs.

Do you send the payments yourself? If that is the case you should adhere to the language of the support order. If it states "every two weeks" then you should continue that pattern, regardless of when you are paid. Just budget accordingly to make the required payments.

If the support order states it is deducted from your pay and sent via the child support system, then I assume that is happening still. In that case send him a copy of the paperwork from your employer showing the change to the pay periods. If you send it by certified mail you will have documentation that he has been informed.

[Anonymous 3]

It comes out automatically. The court order says I have to pay every paycheck. I'd rather just do it monthly but he wanted it every paycheck.

I have documentation proving he's been informed. He was told before I even switched jobs.

Do you send the payments yourself? If that is the case you should adhere to the language of the support order. If it states "every two weeks" then you should continue that pattern, regardless of when you are paid. Just budget accordingly to make the required payments.

If the support order states it is deducted from your pay and sent via the child support system, then I assume that is happening still. In that case send him a copy of the paperwork from your employer showing the change to the pay periods. If you send it by certified mail you will have documentation that he has been informed.

Did you child support payments increase when you switched to bi-monthly payments?

[Anonymous 1]

It comes out automatically. The court order says I have to pay every paycheck. I'd rather just do it monthly but he wanted it every paycheck.

I have documentation proving he's been informed. He was told before I even switched jobs.

Do you send the payments yourself? If that is the case you should adhere to the language of the support order. If it states "every two weeks" then you should continue that pattern, regardless of when you are paid. Just budget accordingly to make the required payments.

If the support order states it is deducted from your pay and sent via the child support system, then I assume that is happening still. In that case send him a copy of the paperwork from your employer showing the change to the pay periods. If you send it by certified mail you will have documentation that he has been informed.

Did you child support payments increase when you switched to bi-monthly payments?

A little bit because there are 24 payments a year vs 26 with the biweekly payments.

[Deleted User 1977]

If you have the documentation that he's been made aware of the changes, ignore his mean texts and VMs.