You can hate that law all you want, but that doesn’t make that adoption corrupt and unlawful because it is done according to the law.
And you’re assuming the adoptive parents are participants in a “corrupt” adoption when they simply adopted a boy that was put up for adoption according to the law. Don’t take it out on them because you disagree with this law. Do something to try to change it. You’re vilifying them without even knowing the facts, just because you hate this law, so obviously they are horrible people from benefiting from it, even if they don’t have all the facts themselves or are doing something good for this child, since they won’t change the law by refusing to adopt him.
And even if they knew all the facts, what do you expect them to do? Not give the boy a loving home because the law is unfair? Leave him hanging and hope he doesn’t end up in a bad situation because they got all higher than thou? If that’s the law, then the boy won’t be returned to his parents just because they get on a soapbox and refuse to adopt him. And that’s better for that child how, exactly?
Murdoc's Mistress wrote: ↑Tue Jan 31, 2023 1:41 pm
mcginnisc wrote: ↑Tue Jan 31, 2023 10:32 am
Murdoc's Mistress wrote: ↑Fri Jan 27, 2023 11:00 am
No doubt his fake parents will tell him nothing but lies to justify why he was the only one adopted out.
Yikes.. fake? I mean.. I understand where you are coming from as children should stay with their bio families unless absolutely necessary and TPR due to lack of payment is not ok, but to call people fake is just cruel. The same people that have forced the TPR are the same ones giving information to the new parents. Do you really think that people that have been underhanded and forced TPR would be forthcoming with: this child is only available because the bio parents could not pay fees required by the state so we just took them away? The odds are slim that the new parents know this information so they are also being caught in this web of lies.
That said, I'm an adoptive parent to a little girl internationally adopted. She would have lived in an orphanage until 13 and then tossed into the street as by law they are not allowed to stay at the SWI after 13 years of age unless they have a medical disabililty. We have no information about her first family as she was found on the beach with no note or anything. We brought her home at 17 months old so we are all she has ever known. We have tried to find her first family, but have been unsuccessful over the years. She is now 17 and I can guarantee that if you ever called us "fake" in front of her, she would have some serious words for you. Adoptees do not deserve to be denigrated for being adopted, nor do their families.
I should have clarified. I do not think all are fake. Most are freakin' awesome. But in a situation like this, where they adopt a child because the parents were TPR'd over a bill - yes, they're fake. Their adoption is corrupt at best because they didn't help a child, they helped themselves to a child who should have gone back home. Those folks will be in for a rude awakening when the child finds out they were adopted out by the state over a damned bill.