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Momto2boys973 wrote: Fri Nov 25, 2022 6:15 pm IKR?
I agree with others that her son overreacted and it was uncalled for, but the daughter becoming this poor, innocent victim isn’t right either. She shouldn’t be coddled and avoid punishment because she got a nasty response. She started it and if you can take it, don’t dish it. I doubt this is the first time that kid has overreacted, so she knew what could possibly happen by hitting him first for no reason.
mater-three wrote: Fri Nov 25, 2022 5:57 pm Wait. I just realized that your dd slapped ds first. You are punishing ds but not dd? That’s one way to show favoritism I guess.
My daughters went through a period when they couldn’t stand each other. They never laid a hand on each other because that wouldn’t have flown in my house. That’s not to say they didn’t yell and fuss at each other. I grew up in a house where my sister could do no wrong and I could do no right. It’s a really crappy feeling to know your parents/parent loves your sibling more. Those kids are gonna grow up and move away someday. If she expects to have a relationship with both of them, she better get that under control. I couldn’t imagine being without a relationship with my kids.
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And your first thought is to come here and post about it ...
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Kookookrazy wrote: Thu Nov 24, 2022 6:48 pm I grabbed my belt and hit him.with it while yelling at him to stop.
And this is why our civilisation has eventually realised that parents using ANY corporal punishment on children is a bad idea.

Children copy their parents. They see you resort to force as a means of settling a dispute, and they copy you.

And so on, a poison that is passed from generation to generation.
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Please get some help. Ya'll have issues
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I have read all of this and taking into account your previous posts I can't help but be totally confused by your way of thinking. It's baffling! You're all over the place. One minute you say you don't ever resort to violence with your kids but I'm almost positive I've read about you hitting them before and the next you're beating them with a belt? You say you can't work because your near adult children need you to sit at home yet you expect them to be independent adults? Your dd antagonizes your ds all of the time and yet you not only allow it you reward her when your ds snaps and can't handle it anymore.
I really hope your ds decides to go to therapy soon. He's going to need it to recover from your parenting. At least your dd is getting that.
I mean you told your dd she should have given him the bag of snacks because she knows how he is with food? Nope nope nope you teach your ds not to be that way with food and to have some respect for other people.
I say this as a parent of an autistic kid. I know what I'm talking about when I say parenting an autistic kid is a ton of work. Getting them to see and understand the needs of others and that life requires give and take not just "well he's autistic you have to understand" is so much work but so vital for these kids to succeed in life. My kid used to be that way about food too. He would panic that our house would burn down or there would be a flood and he wouldn't have food. He would hide it in his room to rot (always produce of course) out of fear that something would happen to the kitchen and he wouldn't be able to eat. He has never gone hungry but he still did it. And it took me years to get him to let that go. But your solution is never to teach. It's to ignore until it blows up in your face and then implement some illogical giant consequence that you never actually follow through with and usually puts 1 kid against the other. 1 kid is suddenly the golden child and the other is dirt.
You also never have money for important things like a hotel when you move but you do for a $500 video game system and ridiculously expensive furniture. No wonder your kids are confused.
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BTW your DD is not innocent.......punish her too
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Kookookrazy wrote: Thu Nov 24, 2022 6:48 pm Im so upset Im still in shock.This just happened a few minutes ago.I took the kids to see black panther this morning the 11:30 a.m show than i was going to cook thanksgiving dinner afterwards when we got home I stopped at Mcdonalds because i knew it would be several hours until dinner was done.( I was just going to bake turkey wings ,rice ,gravy,veggies and mac n cheese) since our whole famiy is deceased and its only us left there is no relative house to go to or anything really .

So we get home and they are digging thru the mcdonalds and theyre in the hallway and Dd slapped Ds...Ds hit her back REALLY hard and i was on my bed and i yelled at them both to stop.They didnt stop the fight esculated and DS was flinging dd around like a rag doll he really hurt so I jumped up and tried to separate them...Ds just went nuts started cursing at dd while pummeling her I tried to get him off of her but couldnt so I grabbed my belt and hit him.with it while yelling at him to stop.He than turned around and started pummeling me..he broke my glasses .Me and dd both tried to get him to stop and us both hitting him at the same time.enraged him even more ...stuff is thrown everywhere the back of my neck is bleeding o dont even know how that happened...


Dd is in her room having a panic attack..ds is in his room doing god knows what...Im limping around.Im pissed off and im not cooking dinner.Why do something they enjoy when they just beat the shit out of eachother and me?!

I told them they are not to put their hands on eachother!! Over and over again this is unacceptable .Ds said he hit her because she hit him but why all that force? And dd i told her to stop hitting him as well she's always hitting him

Im just so overwhelmed and fed up right now

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And “treat” herself to a little gambling and dinner…
Valentina327 wrote: Fri Nov 25, 2022 11:28 pm And your first thought is to come here and post about it ...
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Holy shit....you and your kids are F***ing doomed.
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Anonymous 8 wrote: Sat Nov 26, 2022 12:01 pm I have read all of this and taking into account your previous posts I can't help but be totally confused by your way of thinking. It's baffling! You're all over the place. One minute you say you don't ever resort to violence with your kids but I'm almost positive I've read about you hitting them before and the next you're beating them with a belt? You say you can't work because your near adult children need you to sit at home yet you expect them to be independent adults? Your dd antagonizes your ds all of the time and yet you not only allow it you reward her when your ds snaps and can't handle it anymore.
I really hope your ds decides to go to therapy soon. He's going to need it to recover from your parenting. At least your dd is getting that.
I mean you told your dd she should have given him the bag of snacks because she knows how he is with food? Nope nope nope you teach your ds not to be that way with food and to have some respect for other people.
I say this as a parent of an autistic kid. I know what I'm talking about when I say parenting an autistic kid is a ton of work. Getting them to see and understand the needs of others and that life requires give and take not just "well he's autistic you have to understand" is so much work but so vital for these kids to succeed in life. My kid used to be that way about food too. He would panic that our house would burn down or there would be a flood and he wouldn't have food. He would hide it in his room to rot (always produce of course) out of fear that something would happen to the kitchen and he wouldn't be able to eat. He has never gone hungry but he still did it. And it took me years to get him to let that go. But your solution is never to teach. It's to ignore until it blows up in your face and then implement some illogical giant consequence that you never actually follow through with and usually puts 1 kid against the other. 1 kid is suddenly the golden child and the other is dirt.
You also never have money for important things like a hotel when you move but you do for a $500 video game system and ridiculously expensive furniture. No wonder your kids are confused.
I think when people hit their kids they're either so angry they later cant remember doing it or in denial. My mom got mad at my brother for telling his gf that mom beat us (that's the phrase mom used). Bro tends to lie a lot so I'm not sure the extent of what he said, but mom said, "I never beat you kids!" I said, "Well mom, you did hit us with the paddle all the time." Her reply was, "I'd hit you kids once and then that was it. Then you'd be good again." ...Totally not true. She'd wale on us with that thing - and I told her so. She brushed it off, "well, it's not like he was saying!" She honestly either doesn't remember because she was so caught up in the anger of the moment, or is in denial, or both.
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