I do like what LiveWhat U Love said about watching Youtube videos about social situations and confidence. I'm going to mention that to her. Maybe they can watch them together and have some conversations about speaking up for himself if he's ever bullied or made fun of. They'll be back in two weeks. But her wife is coming back earlier bc of work. DH adn I will most likely talk about this whole issue with her when she comes over.
I absolutely agree with your statement about "blending in". He has 2 friends who are going to start middle school with him this fall. Then next year a group of friends 9 about 6 more ) will be coming in , all SPED. I think this will be his group, but it is a whole year out. The ones that are with him this coming year are not as close but they may become so given the new environment.
WellPreserved wrote: ↑Thu Aug 11, 2022 6:02 pm That's a tough situation. I understand a parent wanting their SNs child to fit in at school but it's a fine line between asking them to change to fit in rather than embrace their different-ness with confidence. My son didn't wear sleeves or long pants until he was an adult and sure, there were times that he was teased but most of the time the kids understood and sometimes even embraced his weirdness. Some of his friends have stated that they miss the old "Bill style" but they are equally embracing his new style (cowboy hat, jean jacket with sleeves cut out, and hiking pants), lol.
Bottom line for me was that muting or forcing a change of clothing was not going to make him "blend". He had too many challenges to ever blend in. So I worked on his confidence and helped him pursue interests which enabled him to make friends with similar interests. That friend group, some of whom were equally weirdly dressed, offered him protection both emotionally and physically from the bullies. The bullies were never going to accept him no matter what he wore.