My husband was military when we first married. The first 12 months of our marriage he was gone for 9 months of it. 24 years later we have a good balance—he works 6 days a week often 10 hour days so I am often alone with the. It’s, or in my worn space for some quiet when he is home.
On the flip side because of his work schedule when he is home on the weekends I am very protective of that time. I decline individual invites in favor of those where we can be a family.
I love my family but I want my me time too.
Too attached at the hip
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Do you want an honest reply on this or are you just looking to vent?
A lot of my post was to vent, but I am open minded to what you have to say in reply as well.Olioxenfree wrote: ↑Sun Aug 07, 2022 9:44 am Do you want an honest reply on this or are you just looking to vent?
Makes sense what you have to say I really does. I am pro Military and I respect our military a lot, especially considering both my dad and my brother served in the Navy at one time in their life. So thank you to your husband for his service to this country.Heyteacher wrote: ↑Sun Aug 07, 2022 8:38 am My husband was military when we first married. The first 12 months of our marriage he was gone for 9 months of it. 24 years later we have a good balance—he works 6 days a week often 10 hour days so I am often alone with the. It’s, or in my worn space for some quiet when he is home.
On the flip side because of his work schedule when he is home on the weekends I am very protective of that time. I decline individual invites in favor of those where we can be a family.
I love my family but I want my me time too.
Anyway, as far as my thoughts to your situation goes, I can respect you in that you are being protective of your time with your husband and also with your children as well. I'm sure you miss your husband a lot when he is working, because he works so much. Again, that makes sense. Do you try to make the time, and even still effort as well, for your outside friendships and acquaintances (outside of family) still, so that your friends don't feel abandoned by your friendship to them?
I want to add, while responding to you, that the problem with my sister and her husband, is that neither one of them work an outside job. They both are on disability payments, and thus they are literally together 24/7, with no breaks in between. I am on disability myself, so I am I promise you and everyone else here not judging my sister for that. It is the fact that she is so insecure within herself, that she can't break away from him for even some sisterly talk. He always has to be part of our conversations and it really ticks me off and annoys me most of all.
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Same here.
carterscutie85 wrote: ↑Sat Aug 06, 2022 7:19 pm DH and I are both not very social people. So it may seem to others that we are attached at the hip, but the truth is social situations are exhausting for both of us. We really only like being around each other and our kids.
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