I gave her cancer!

[Anonymous 1]

And...?

Oh I thought you might have some common sense and would understand that , it means dd26 has been doing some thinking about moving home.

Probably just so you will just shut the hell up.

Nah, she & the baby have been her since Saturday, she's very comfortable here. I hope for you that when your children become adults they will want to always be around you too.

Hope you feel better about yourself soon .

[Anonymous 1]

when my granny had a double mastectomy she didn't have To go through any of that. They took her boobs gave her 2 meds she had to take the rest of her life. She passed years later of old age. So no not ALL women go through that stuff.

She has a mother who is trying to control her and force her to things she's not ready for. Did your family do that? Im betting not

Everyone is reeling from this news, not just the daughter. The entire family. Her mom is trying to strategize. I don't think this is control at all. I think the mom is just trying to think levelheaded and practically, because that's what moms do. They remain calm in a crisis to help their child. I have gotten this news, twice, and your mind bubbles over with thoughts and fears and decisions that have to be made IMMEDIATELY. Do I want a mastectomy for sure? Do I want immediate reconstruction? Implants or fat grafting? Can I save my lymph nodes so I am not facing a lifetime of lymphedema? These are mind boggling decisions. But - There is no time to ponder. Surgery needs to happen ASAFP before this rotten tumor gets bigger or invades more tissue. There is a window to begin chemo if you are going to do it. Once you pass that window, the efficacy is greatly reduced so you have to decide that course in the immediate term. Then you are trying to picture yourself bald. You are Googling wigs. Can I get a wig made from my own hair if I cut it off before it starts to fall out? Will people at work know? Will I look normal? Radiation follows after the chemo. There are a lot of life changing choices to be made in a very small window of time. I think Mom is just trying to take care of the logistics side as the daughter has enough to worry about.

Yep i know all about, have watched family go through it and been there to help them. Never once did any one act pushy or self like OP. Yes i get trying to make a plan but it's not HER plan to make, and can make suggestions but at the end of the day it's up to her dd if she wants to move back home or not. But OP has done nothing but talk about how inconvenient this will be for HER and how inconvenient they are now.

IF her dd wants to live at home cool that's her Choice but if she does not That's also her choice and her mother shouldn't be pushy and try to force her dd to do something she doesn't want to. And she also shouldn't hold the things she chooses to do for her dd and grandchild over their heads to manipulate them. Which is exactly what she has done.

You're a fool who can't see the post was a way to vent and that my adult children want to be around me because I treat them like adults.

Some of you fools clearly have mommy issues where your mommy's are controlling, so your perspective is blinded by that.

I feel sorry for you fools.

[Anonymous 3]

Everyone is reeling from this news, not just the daughter. The entire family. Her mom is trying to strategize. I don't think this is control at all. I think the mom is just trying to think levelheaded and practically, because that's what moms do. They remain calm in a crisis to help their child. I have gotten this news, twice, and your mind bubbles over with thoughts and fears and decisions that have to be made IMMEDIATELY. Do I want a mastectomy for sure? Do I want immediate reconstruction? Implants or fat grafting? Can I save my lymph nodes so I am not facing a lifetime of lymphedema? These are mind boggling decisions. But - There is no time to ponder. Surgery needs to happen ASAFP before this rotten tumor gets bigger or invades more tissue. There is a window to begin chemo if you are going to do it. Once you pass that window, the efficacy is greatly reduced so you have to decide that course in the immediate term. Then you are trying to picture yourself bald. You are Googling wigs. Can I get a wig made from my own hair if I cut it off before it starts to fall out? Will people at work know? Will I look normal? Radiation follows after the chemo. There are a lot of life changing choices to be made in a very small window of time. I think Mom is just trying to take care of the logistics side as the daughter has enough to worry about.

Yep i know all about, have watched family go through it and been there to help them. Never once did any one act pushy or self like OP. Yes i get trying to make a plan but it's not HER plan to make, and can make suggestions but at the end of the day it's up to her dd if she wants to move back home or not. But OP has done nothing but talk about how inconvenient this will be for HER and how inconvenient they are now.

IF her dd wants to live at home cool that's her Choice but if she does not That's also her choice and her mother shouldn't be pushy and try to force her dd to do something she doesn't want to. And she also shouldn't hold the things she chooses to do for her dd and grandchild over their heads to manipulate them. Which is exactly what she has done.

You're a fool who can't see the post was a way to vent and that my adult children want to be around me because I treat them like adults.

Some of you fools clearly have mommy issues where your mommy's are controlling, so your perspective is blinded by that.

I feel sorry for you fools.

Sure.
My mother is amazing. But you think what you want to make yourself feel better about forcing your kids to be around you and keeping them codependent on you i feel sorry for you and your kids. You bullied your dd and it's sad.

[Anonymous 3]

Oh I thought you might have some common sense and would understand that , it means dd26 has been doing some thinking about moving home.

Probably just so you will just shut the hell up.

Nah, she & the baby have been her since Saturday, she's very comfortable here. I hope for you that when your children become adults they will want to always be around you too.

Hope you feel better about yourself soon .

She just shut you up. That's all. You bullied her and bugged her into she gave in. Like I'm sure you have done her whole life. So sad.

I feel great about myself thank you.

[Anonymous 1]

Yep i know all about, have watched family go through it and been there to help them. Never once did any one act pushy or self like OP. Yes i get trying to make a plan but it's not HER plan to make, and can make suggestions but at the end of the day it's up to her dd if she wants to move back home or not. But OP has done nothing but talk about how inconvenient this will be for HER and how inconvenient they are now.

IF her dd wants to live at home cool that's her Choice but if she does not That's also her choice and her mother shouldn't be pushy and try to force her dd to do something she doesn't want to. And she also shouldn't hold the things she chooses to do for her dd and grandchild over their heads to manipulate them. Which is exactly what she has done.

You're a fool who can't see the post was a way to vent and that my adult children want to be around me because I treat them like adults.

Some of you fools clearly have mommy issues where your mommy's are controlling, so your perspective is blinded by that.

I feel sorry for you fools.

Sure.
My mother is amazing. But you think what you want to make yourself feel better about forcing your kids to be around you and keeping them codependent on you i feel sorry for you and your kids. You bullied your dd and it's sad.

Hey BeachBrat, you played your hand too many times the rest of us can tell its you commenting as anon 3.

Boy you can't help yourself & just keep showing the rest of us that you need to keep going because it's you who needs to feel better about yourself.

[Anonymous 1]

Probably just so you will just shut the hell up.

Nah, she & the baby have been her since Saturday, she's very comfortable here. I hope for you that when your children become adults they will want to always be around you too.

Hope you feel better about yourself soon .

She just shut you up. That's all. You bullied her and bugged her into she gave in. Like I'm sure you have done her whole life. So sad.

I feel great about myself thank you.

You're the bully here. The only one impressed by you is you.

[Anonymous 4]

Nice troll post bumpitybumpbump. You finally got one going!!

[Anonymous 7]

when my granny had a double mastectomy she didn't have To go through any of that. They took her boobs gave her 2 meds she had to take the rest of her life. She passed years later of old age. So no not ALL women go through that stuff.

She has a mother who is trying to control her and force her to things she's not ready for. Did your family do that? Im betting not

Everyone is reeling from this news, not just the daughter. The entire family. Her mom is trying to strategize. I don't think this is control at all. I think the mom is just trying to think levelheaded and practically, because that's what moms do. They remain calm in a crisis to help their child. I have gotten this news, twice, and your mind bubbles over with thoughts and fears and decisions that have to be made IMMEDIATELY. Do I want a mastectomy for sure? Do I want immediate reconstruction? Implants or fat grafting? Can I save my lymph nodes so I am not facing a lifetime of lymphedema? These are mind boggling decisions. But - There is no time to ponder. Surgery needs to happen ASAFP before this rotten tumor gets bigger or invades more tissue. There is a window to begin chemo if you are going to do it. Once you pass that window, the efficacy is greatly reduced so you have to decide that course in the immediate term. Then you are trying to picture yourself bald. You are Googling wigs. Can I get a wig made from my own hair if I cut it off before it starts to fall out? Will people at work know? Will I look normal? Radiation follows after the chemo. There are a lot of life changing choices to be made in a very small window of time. I think Mom is just trying to take care of the logistics side as the daughter has enough to worry about.

Yep i know all about, have watched family go through it and been there to help them. Never once did any one act pushy or self like OP. Yes i get trying to make a plan but it's not HER plan to make, and can make suggestions but at the end of the day it's up to her dd if she wants to move back home or not. But OP has done nothing but talk about how inconvenient this will be for HER and how inconvenient they are now.

IF her dd wants to live at home cool that's her Choice but if she does not That's also her choice and her mother shouldn't be pushy and try to force her dd to do something she doesn't want to. And she also shouldn't hold the things she chooses to do for her dd and grandchild over their heads to manipulate them. Which is exactly what she has done.

No, what’s happening here is that you’re hearing from multiple people WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH IT saying it’s understandable what this mother is going through.
And you’re disagreeing with the logistical panic that comes along with this because YOU SAW PEOPLE GO THROUGH IT.
You have no idea if you’ve never done it.

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Probably just so you will just shut the hell up.

Nah, she & the baby have been her since Saturday, she's very comfortable here. I hope for you that when your children become adults they will want to always be around you too.

Hope you feel better about yourself soon .

She just shut you up. That's all. You bullied her and bugged her into she gave in. Like I'm sure you have done her whole life. So sad.

I feel great about myself thank you.

Are you going through something? The lengths you are going to hurt this woman are scary. If you need to talk to someone, there are therapists that will work on a sliding scale so it’s affordable.

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You're a fool who can't see the post was a way to vent and that my adult children want to be around me because I treat them like adults.

Some of you fools clearly have mommy issues where your mommy's are controlling, so your perspective is blinded by that.

I feel sorry for you fools.

Sure.
My mother is amazing. But you think what you want to make yourself feel better about forcing your kids to be around you and keeping them codependent on you i feel sorry for you and your kids. You bullied your dd and it's sad.

Hey BeachBrat, you played your hand too many times the rest of us can tell its you commenting as anon 3.

Boy you can't help yourself & just keep showing the rest of us that you need to keep going because it's you who needs to feel better about yourself.

Yeah, I was thinking too, why do beachbrat’s happyfaces show up sideways whereas everyone else’s are right side up?