A good friend of mine just went to court with her ex. They set up child support automatically when they were doing a court order. Same with another friend last year.Anonymous 6 wrote: ↑Sun Aug 02, 2020 5:58 amYou're wrong. In most States You as the mother have to file for custody and child support separately. Just because you file for custody doesn't mean the courts will automatically give you child support. And you can't keep him from his child for failure to pay. The courts will hold you in contempt of whatever visitation schedule he has. It's disgusting that you would even keep his child from him.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:25 pmI'm not going to go after him for child support but if he wants rights and visitations it will be set up by the state. I don't see anything wrong with waiting to tell him. I'm moving anyway so why make that process harder for me? Telling him now isn't going to change the outcome it will just avoid unnecessary drama.MistressMonster wrote: ↑Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:23 pm
Well don't go holding your hand out for CS if you plan to be this way.
You think keeping this pregnancy from him isn't going cause even more unnecessary drama(that only YOU have brought on) and you're a coward for moving before he even has a chance to know you're pregnant. You don't want him to be able to fight for rights to his own child. I hope he takes you to court and gets at least 50/50 custody.
It isn't about money. If they don't set it up automatically then I'm not going to do it myself.
He can't get 50/50 custody. Waiting an extra 5 days to tell him isn't going to change anything in the long run.
If I didn't want him to have the chance to fight I wouldn't tell him at all.