I've been with a guy for 3 months. Everything is going great except one thing. He can not sleep at all when I am with him. The handful of times I've been there he doesn't sleep at all
He lives an hour away from me. I see him twice a week. I go there for the day on Sunday but have been going down after work once during the week for about a month or so.
Do you think he will get used to it or I should just go on Sunday. I just feel sooner or later I'm going to want a full time relationship and am afraid of just prolonging a break up if we can't ever sleep together.
Going to bed and walking up next to someone is something I miss so bad.
Is something better than nothing? Relationship question
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I struggle with staying asleep when I am at my SO.
At first, I would go to bed until he would drift off, and then I would get up watch tv, read, work out, whatever.. eventually he became frustrated.
He communicated those feeling to me which was extremely helpful OR I would not have known the degree it was affecting our relationship.
Cuddling, spooning, waking up next to someone was something he also longed for. Our compromise was that I would try to stay in bed watching something on my laptop, reading a book, OR listen to a book. I've actually been sleeping much better. Its not an uncommon issue. I hope you two find a compromise for the nights when you are together and take it from there. Perhaps a bedtime ritual of sorts to get his mind in shut down mode.
At first, I would go to bed until he would drift off, and then I would get up watch tv, read, work out, whatever.. eventually he became frustrated.
He communicated those feeling to me which was extremely helpful OR I would not have known the degree it was affecting our relationship.
Cuddling, spooning, waking up next to someone was something he also longed for. Our compromise was that I would try to stay in bed watching something on my laptop, reading a book, OR listen to a book. I've actually been sleeping much better. Its not an uncommon issue. I hope you two find a compromise for the nights when you are together and take it from there. Perhaps a bedtime ritual of sorts to get his mind in shut down mode.
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Like having to cuddle/touch or roll over and sleep on his side of the bed? The latter might be something he gets used to. The cuddling/touching, maybe not.
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Idk talk to him. Perhaps a bigger bed or compromise. He stays with you until you fall asleep and then sleeps elsewhere. My last bf I admit it was hard. He had sleep apnea and he would always mess with his sleeping mask. Then he'd wake me up. If he didn't use it I needed earplugs. His snoring killed me. Also my bed is small and he's a big guy. So I kind of get it.
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