Given that the the "first parent disappears with the children," "dumps the children," "drops out of the picture," and is "volatile," the 2nd parent being "happy if the kids had all of that time with the first parent" doesn't say much for the 2nd parent!
I would not be OK leaving my kids with my DH if I knew he often "dropped out of the picture or is volatile." I would want my kids with me and I would consider asking for supervised visitation with him. I definitely would not be comfortable leaving my kids with him for extended stays (re: summer break).
Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 06, 2019 10:48 pm
sheramom4 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 06, 2019 10:42 pm
Given that the first parent currently has primary custody I suspect the judge will give a standard long distance custody order....most of the summer, Spring Break, every other Christmas Break, opposite Thanksgiving breaks and possibly some random three day weekends as well as "liberal visitation" when Parent 1 is in town. Costs will likely be split for transportation.
There is really nothing that can be put into an order to prevent craziness outside if insisting the court order be followed.
Split costs for transportation? Good grief, the second parent has already been driven into the ground financially by all of this. That seems incredibly unfair, especially since the first parent is moving to chase dick.
I think the second parent would be happy if the kids had all of that time with the first parent as long as they were safe. And the first parent didn't try to disappear with them.