As I alluded to earlier and you mentioned below, you can't just call people whatever you want to call them. If OP's SIL wouldn't want nieces/nephews to call her "Susie," they'd be wrong to call her Susie. Anyone who thinks it would be OK for them to do that, I'd want to know if it would be OK if SIL, Susie could call them Harry, Dick, and Jane...because that's what she wants to call them. Nope. IMO, it would be wrong.
QuantumNursing wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2019 11:15 pmSorry but no. It's about the comfort of both people involved. People should not force filial titles to try and force intimate relationships. Just like when my Mil and Fil.insisted I call them mom and dad. It made me uncomfortable so I said no. I'm no way was I ride to that. 2 of my Aunts are 10 years younger me do you really think I call them anything but Susie?Anonymous 5 wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2019 9:27 pm To call any person by any other name than the one they wish to be called by would be ignorant. And if my kids did it (but they would never), they'd be in trouble.
But it appears this is a moot point anyway because OP said the kids & she will be calling SIL by the name she wishes..."Aunt." It's a win/win (sarcasm) for everyone. SIL gets what she wants by being called "Aunt." And OP/nieces/nephews get to continue to feel as if they are slighting her.
QuantumNursing wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2019 8:40 pm
So they can call her Mrs. last name and call everyone else by their nicknames