Momto2boys973 wrote: ↑Wed Apr 17, 2019 3:16 pm Yeah, I understand she’s frustrated, but she’s the one that chose to have a child with a guy with a low income and she’s the one that decided to be apart that guy with low income. Those are the consequences of her choices, and it’s no one else’s responsibility to better her situation. If the guy is paying what the courts determined was the right amount considering his income, then that’s that. He’s doing what he’s legally obligated to do. If she wants something better for herself, then it’s up to her to make it happen.
Anonymous 8 wrote: ↑Wed Apr 17, 2019 2:58 pmMomto2boys973 wrote: ↑Wed Apr 17, 2019 2:48 pm An extra room doesn’t double the rent. If anything, he should be paying half that extra room, not half her rent.
And CS is calculated by income. If that’s what the courts determine he can and should contribute, he doesn’t have to pay for “extras” if he doesn’t want to. It would be nice, but he doesn’t have to.
Extra bedrooms in this area add a substantial amount to the rent. Children cost a lot of money. I don't blame OP for her frustration. Her ex should take on a part-time job or get a different job so he can pay more.
$300 here wouldn't cover half of daycare or after school care. $300 wouldn't come close to covering half of what's needed for most children. It's a joke.
Exactly this. If the guy is meeting his legal obligation to the kid as a person with low income, it's up to her if she wants her child to have more than the bare minimum to contribute more of her money. Sure it would be nice if he developed his career and earned more money and had some more ambition and contributed more. But his legal obligation ends at 300 dollars. There are two parent households that spend less than that on a child and as long as the child's very basic needs are met, they are meeting their legal obligations and that's all there is to it.
No one is saying this guy is a wonderful father here that I've read. But arguments that include utility bills doubling over one 8 year old (or rents being doubled for one extra bedroom, or that dad should be responsible for half the rent) seem inflated to me and it makes it difficult to take them seriously.