Baconqueen13 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 24, 2019 10:20 am
LiveWhatULove wrote: ↑Sun Mar 24, 2019 10:08 am
Anonymous 2 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 24, 2019 10:02 am
I didn't use that term, and of course no, they didn't either.
But the doctors did say that, although ODD is often comorbid with ADHD which could make it more difficult to parent the child, ODD itself was largely a parenting problem and that treatment they did focused mainly on the parent. This was through a very reputable childrens hospital in my area that brought in doctors from several places in the country who have a lot of experience working with these families. So again, I ask you not to call them ignorant.
I agree with you, except, you are taking this personal, as I never said ALL providers, perhaps I should have said “some”, why do you think I am attacking the experts you refer to & know directly? I apologize, I am not. I am constant contact with wonderful PMHNPs, some who specialize in peds. They are dear friends. I adore them, and am not calling them ignorant either, only the ones who literally say it’s shitty or bad parenting.
But out of millions of providers, there are a lot of bad ones & some are ignorant. The posters here do not lie.
I'm sorry if my assessment of the issue is too blunt for your liking....actually no, I'm not. I'm blunt it's a fact of life. Do I think ALL parents whose kids have a diagnosis of ODD are shitty parents.....of course not. Do I believe there is a rise of such cases and diagnoses due to shitty parenting? Yes, overwhelmingly, yes. Would I expect a health care professional to be as blunt as I am in these posts? Certainly not, but I still know how they view or refer to most cases of ODD behind closed doors among other professionals regardless of how blunt they are being about it or not. I'm sorry but it seems to me that you are the one taking this post personally, not anon2.
f**k yes, I take the situation personal. I am not ashamed by this. Until, you have heard masses telling you, “you are a shitty parent” that’s why your DS is struggling, people don’t understand. I speak out now, I choose to be vulnerable because if just one mother on this board is struggling, crying herself to sleep, beating herself up, spending 1000’s of dollars on therapy and still failing her child, I want her to know she is not alone. Because it is a horribly lonely journey. I want her to know there is hope. And your blunt statements provide no comfort, so that is why I voice mine.
I have worked with patients for 24 years now, and I have no respect for providers that behind closed doors that call people shitty, especially in the mental health world. So let’s just stop now, and disagree about defining it s blunt vs. unprofessional. Sure we all have moments of compassion fatigue and irritability, but anyone working with parents and mentally unwell children and teens that uses routine derogatory language and disrespects the child/parent dyad, gets no respect from me. Get F out of the profession, as far as I am concerned, as it’s bound to result shitty healthcare.
I understand you disagree and that’s fine, as I let my pride get the best of me, just to respond In the first place. If I had wanted to converse with an insensitive, arrogant poster, I would have quoted you first.