Oh. I agree. I don't like to hear
anyone tell another person, let alone a special needs child, to "shut up."
Whether our children have special needs or they do not, sometimes we just get tired of hearing them talk. I get that. Heck! Sometimes I get tired of hearing my DH go on and on. I would like to think that we all do our best. We try to be courteous, to pay attention, and to at least
act like we're interested even when we sometimes aren't. We
should do that for the people that we love. But we aren't perfect and sometimes we slip. And that leads me to the title of this post...
"My daughter annoys the f**k out of me"...That title made me cringe. But
I'm not the mother of a special needs child. I have not walked a mile in her shoes and because I haven't, I can't possibly understand the level of fatigue and frustration (and maybe even anger) that may often creep its way into any one of her days.
So, maybe I should ease back on coming down hard on her for choosing the words she did to express just how frustrated she was. I can't help but wonder if she wasn't just glad to have a place to LAY DOWN those frustrations. Rather than lay into her for using words that I may not of chosen, I'm going to acknowledge her frustration and wish her better, less stressful days.
To her and all the moms of special needs children, you are super heroes. I don't know how you do all that you do in a day. I know you hold up your children EVERY DAY. And I know that the amount of work that you put into giving your children their best shot every day must cause you to be exhausted at the end of most days. I also know that most people don't have a clue about just what goes into your day. I just want you to know that I think your children are gifts. And I think YOU are gifts to your children.
Dylexsmommy wrote: ↑Tue May 14, 2019 6:28 pm
Anonymous 4 wrote: ↑Tue May 14, 2019 6:14 pm
The TITLE, alone, disappoints
me. But is there a particular comment that has disappointed
you?
Dylexsmommy wrote: ↑Tue May 14, 2019 6:07 pm
I'm very disappointed in a lot of the comments on this thread.
The title. The OP, anon 10 I think that punishes her child, some of the other comments from anon 1 and 10.
I was telling my mom a few days ago that since my autistic son is older (14) and my NT son is younger (6) the NT one is really weird to me. I recognize that he's just a typical boy but I've been the autism mommy for 14 years now. It's our normal.
Not only is it like raising 2 only children based on the age difference but it's also 2 parenting styles.
It's so discouraging to see people being so annoyed by what is normal to our autistic kids.
To them they're normal, it's us and society that says they aren't. So not only are they fighting against their stigma but they have people yelling at them to shut up and disregarding what they find interesting. That must be heartbreaking to our children.
Idk. I listen to my autistic son all the time. He goes on and on about his obsession (right now pokemon) and yeah I get annoyed but I let him talk. I love the kid too much and feel such pride in him that it never gets further than "you told me that already".
And now, when kids his age are shutting down and not talking to their parents my kid is opening up to me, he's telling me his dreams and fears and the things that annoy him, etc.
It makes me sad for the kids to see those comments.
Me, too. It seems like it all sounds the SAME. But I'm sure our parents probably said the same thing about the music we listened to! I can tolerate pretty much. But the REPETITIVE STUFF or RAP...Nope! Not happening for me. 
