I broke up with him when I found out he had a DUI

[RedBottoms]

If you have to drink to have fun there's something wrong with you.

I can have fun lots of ways. But I also enjoy a drink. And there is nothing wrong with that. The people with mental issues are people like my inlaws that got the vapors because I wanted ONE glass of wine at dinner.

No, there's nothing wrong with that. People with mental issues have issues. Not all teetotalers have mental issues though.

I think the difference is someone who just personally does not drink themselves but has no problem with others drinking and people who just hate alcohol whatsoever and flip out and get insulting and judgmental and the vapors anytime anyone has a drink. They are the ones with mental issues.

I know a former alcoholic that did not drink at all-but he had no issue with anyone else drinking. He would even make wine pairing suggestions for others etc. He used to be the person that worked in a restaurant and did the wine pairings for a living.

He is a normal tee totaler. My inlaws are the nutsy kind and I won't f**k with the nutsy kind.

[Guest]

Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.

Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

Stupid assumption but that isn't a surprise coming from you

[Guest]

I had a coworker go out to his car after leaving a bar. He was getting something out of it before his ride arrived. He was arrested for DUI. This was about ten years ago. Would you hold that against him?

Yes because that person is clearly stupid too. It really isn't hard to avoid a DUI and that he was risking it

[mommy_jules]

Many tee totalers have their reasons and it doesn't make them boring. Some lived with alcoholic parents and were abused or neglected by them, some have had people they love killed by drunk drivers, and others like my GMIL were beaten by 2 husbands that drank too much. She left one, and the last one she hit with a skillet after a beating from him. It was the last time he ever drank alcohol and they lived happily ever after until he died from cancer 22.5 years ago.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

No, they are boring and high and mighty whatever their reasons. I had an alcoholic father-but I still drink. I don't care if others drink. I just don't have my panties crammed up my ass. Because I can separate the difference between drinking responsibly and being an alcoholic/irresponsible drinker.

The tee totalers I know don't ever see a difference. Someone who has one cocktail at dinner with friends in their eyes is JUST as bad as the guy drinking a 12 pack every night of his life and then beating his wife and kids. They see no difference. Trust me, I know. My inlaws are tee totalers and they acted like I murdered God in front of them because I wanted a glass of wine with Thanksgiving dinner.

I have no tolerance for people like that

What is a tee totaler?

[RedBottoms]

Many tee totalers have their reasons and it doesn't make them boring. Some lived with alcoholic parents and were abused or neglected by them, some have had people they love killed by drunk drivers, and others like my GMIL were beaten by 2 husbands that drank too much. She left one, and the last one she hit with a skillet after a beating from him. It was the last time he ever drank alcohol and they lived happily ever after until he died from cancer 22.5 years ago.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.

No, they are boring and high and mighty whatever their reasons. I had an alcoholic father-but I still drink. I don't care if others drink. I just don't have my panties crammed up my ass. Because I can separate the difference between drinking responsibly and being an alcoholic/irresponsible drinker.

The tee totalers I know don't ever see a difference. Someone who has one cocktail at dinner with friends in their eyes is JUST as bad as the guy drinking a 12 pack every night of his life and then beating his wife and kids. They see no difference. Trust me, I know. My inlaws are tee totalers and they acted like I murdered God in front of them because I wanted a glass of wine with Thanksgiving dinner.

I have no tolerance for people like that

What is a tee totaler?

Someone who never drinks and does not particularly like anyone else to drink either and would be in support of prohibition again etc.

[Guest]

Someone who doesn't drink

She's an idiot and thinks I don't drink at all or that I am against alcohol which isn't the case at all

Many tee totalers have their reasons and it doesn't make them boring. Some lived with alcoholic parents and were abused or neglected by them, some have had people they love killed by drunk drivers, and others like my GMIL were beaten by 2 husbands that drank too much. She left one, and the last one she hit with a skillet after a beating from him. It was the last time he ever drank alcohol and they lived happily ever after until he died from cancer 22.5 years ago.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.

No, they are boring and high and mighty whatever their reasons. I had an alcoholic father-but I still drink. I don't care if others drink. I just don't have my panties crammed up my ass. Because I can separate the difference between drinking responsibly and being an alcoholic/irresponsible drinker.

The tee totalers I know don't ever see a difference. Someone who has one cocktail at dinner with friends in their eyes is JUST as bad as the guy drinking a 12 pack every night of his life and then beating his wife and kids. They see no difference. Trust me, I know. My inlaws are tee totalers and they acted like I murdered God in front of them because I wanted a glass of wine with Thanksgiving dinner.

I have no tolerance for people like that

What is a tee totaler?

[RedBottoms]

Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

Stupid assumption but that isn't a surprise coming from you

why are you posting anonymous if you are such a regular here that knows all the posters?

[Guest]

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

Stupid assumption but that isn't a surprise coming from you

why are you posting anonymous if you are such a regular here that knows all the posters?

I've always posted Anon. Why can't you stop yourself from making stupid assumptions?

[RedBottoms]

I had a coworker go out to his car after leaving a bar. He was getting something out of it before his ride arrived. He was arrested for DUI. This was about ten years ago. Would you hold that against him?

Yes because that person is clearly stupid too. It really isn't hard to avoid a DUI and that he was risking it

So he deserved to go to jail to get something out of his car? He deserved to have his record stained because he needed something out of his car? He deserved to be out lawyer fees and fines because he needed something out of his car?

See you are just hateful and don't like people to drink period. This statement proves that

[RedBottoms]

Stupid assumption but that isn't a surprise coming from you

why are you posting anonymous if you are such a regular here that knows all the posters?

I've always posted Anon. Why can't you stop yourself from making stupid assumptions?

why? scared?