My mom is who she is, it’s annoying. But we’re never going to cut her off (I’d never do that to my kids, the adore her)RedBottoms wrote: ↑Sun Jun 03, 2018 8:24 am You need to whip your mother into shape or she will find herself cut off from her son and DIL and future grandkids. I would be all over my mother telling her she better not ever give her DIL a hard time and if she does, you are siding with them over her which means your mom can spend holidays sad and alone and you will spend it with them.
She is digging her own grave here. Let her know you will not tolerate it. Because if you side with her or look the other way and tolerate it-the DIL and brother are likely to cut you off too. You have to take a hard stance on this.
My brother anticipated the reaction I just wish she would just relax a little. (They definitely aren’t having anymore children) And I wish she would realize that giving news or information isn’t asking for her approval or opinion. We never cut her off, but we do step back if she gets stuck on only wanting to give her unneeded opinion