Mom Confessions

People can run their marriages and relationships any way they like. I think what is missing from this advice is any understanding of variation. Even for people in really traditional religions, sometimes the woman wears the pants in the family. You might find the wedding day is what HE has been waiting for, or the wedding night is what SHE has been waiting for and they will both enjoy it more if he stands where she wants him to stand, wears what she wants him to wear, and does what she wants him to do in the bedroom too. That's not a matter of belief but one of personality and inclination and many couples find their own way does not exactly fit the mold. And that's good.

So good marital advice would allow for variation.