Does you MIL do this?

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Coffeetillcocktails wrote: Wed Oct 10, 2018 5:48 pm
RedBottoms wrote: Wed Oct 10, 2018 4:13 pm how is she seeing where you are going? that is the first way to shut down the snarky little guilt trip comments. Unfriend her on fb and social media. Stop tagging yourself in locations where she can see it. Don't post pics of locations near her so she can see it.

What she does not know--won't hurt her. Stop the info train basically.
Oh god I don’t recommend that with a passive aggressive mil! If she’s like mine that would cause a war of epic proportions and make her initial comments seem like day at the park!

We went through this with my mil and daughter (15). Mil commented something on an Instagram post my dd has up. It caused lots of unwanted attention and was the last straw in regard to her comments on posts so dd blocked her. What has ensued for the last year has been like Chinese torture. Beginning with a verbal assault last thanksgiving against dd that ended with us being throw out of sil house. Sil tried to physically go after dd. Dd didn’t say anything to them. But they were screaming at her about why she hates them and who blokes family. Omg it was so absurd I can’t even adequately explain it.
Idk about Instagram but on Facebook all you have to do is put her on a restricted list. She won't know a thing about it. Although frankly I'd tell her this is why I blocked you. Now you're going to be blocked on our phones if you don't cease and desist.
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No, I wish she could though she passed a few weeks ago. That being said if we were that close we would have stopped to see her. She didn't have transportation when she was alive so we stopped to visit when we were close. I went and picked her up and cooked her dinner then drove her home regularly so she could spend time with her grandkids and us. She had her moments of crazy MIL but she was awesome too and I miss her a lot.
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We almost never see her because she's BSC, but she pulled shit like that once. We went up to visit family in another state and she threw a tantrum because she thought we should go see her instead. DH shut that shit down fast.
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I think that's a fairly common guilt trip.
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My MIL lives with us. I'm not sure if she would act that way. She's pretty cool about letting us have date nights but she goes everywhere we go if we bring the kids.

My mom and best friend both act that way. It's not just on Facebook- if I mentioned we went somewhere or did something, they're all, "What, no invite?" I just shrug it off. It's not my problem that they're passive aggressive.
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Coffeetillcocktails wrote: Wed Oct 10, 2018 5:48 pm
RedBottoms wrote: Wed Oct 10, 2018 4:13 pm how is she seeing where you are going? that is the first way to shut down the snarky little guilt trip comments. Unfriend her on fb and social media. Stop tagging yourself in locations where she can see it. Don't post pics of locations near her so she can see it.

What she does not know--won't hurt her. Stop the info train basically.
Oh god I don’t recommend that with a passive aggressive mil! If she’s like mine that would cause a war of epic proportions and make her initial comments seem like day at the park!

We went through this with my mil and daughter (15). Mil commented something on an Instagram post my dd has up. It caused lots of unwanted attention and was the last straw in regard to her comments on posts so dd blocked her. What has ensued for the last year has been like Chinese torture. Beginning with a verbal assault last thanksgiving against dd that ended with us being throw out of sil house. Sil tried to physically go after dd. Dd didn’t say anything to them. But they were screaming at her about why she hates them and who blokes family. Omg it was so absurd I can’t even adequately explain it.
that sounds like a case of good riddance to bad rubbish. You got those toxic people out of your life so good.
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No. We only live 10 minutes from her, but she wouldn't act like that even if we did live farther away.
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Well, she couldn’t say that since we live 2 houses away from my in laws 😁
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Another MIL Hater wrote: Wed Oct 10, 2018 3:52 pm Or anyone else you know?

My MIL will make a comment if she sees we've been anywhere within like 10 miles of her home. "So close and no visit," kind of stuff.

1. She never visits us. We go to all her events she invites us to.

2. We're like a city away. It's not that far.

I had to tell her, listen, DH works 12 hours a day-7 days a week. I'm amazed we got to go out together at all. She had nothing to say thankfully. If he wanted to go over there, he would!

I don't hate MIL, I was just joking in my name btw.
I have done it before and others have done it too me as well.
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No.. she has always been very kind.
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