I hang out in a active WOHM sub on Reddit, and anecdotally, I think this has evolved, because in 2024, women ARE supposed to 100% keep their identity, their hobbies, their friends, their physical health, all while climbing the career ladder AND then of course as you pointed out, be the perfect mother with a perfect partner through it all.Murdoc's Mistress wrote: ↑Sun Apr 28, 2024 9:23 amThis. This right here. Society expects us to basically drop everything about us that makes us who we are in order to devote our entire selves into being a wife and/or mother. We're not supposed to have any interests or hobbies that cannot include our children and spouses. We're supposed to just be a wife and mother, nothing else. And society really loves ridiculing and inputting their unwarranted 2 cents if they see a woman who still has things she loves to do that do not include her children.Olioxenfree wrote: ↑Sat Apr 27, 2024 12:08 pm I think that there also are women who would want to be mothers except they don’t want the loss of identity that our society tries to force on us. I’m not saying kids don’t take a lot of my time and aren’t a part of who I am, but I am still my own person and have my own life.
Even back in the OG Cafemom days, there were those who insisted once we became mothers that we had to abandon everything about us that made us who we were to become some stepford bitch.
Screw that.
But in the setting of (as Well Preserved pointed out) having very little societal support.
I feel so blessed to be a mom, best thing that ever happened to me, so I admit, I have to really check myself, shut my mouth and mind my business when so many people are now saying “no kids”. BUT even I, in my romanticized state regarding parenting, admits huge changes to society are needed to even make parenting look somewhat appealing to those women who actually plan and think through the future.