To clarify — this is NOT about “taking care of them.”The is about communicating with them — specifically calling his father during his last week alive and attending the last birthday party his mother will have. These are not huge tasks that take immense money, time, or even cause severe discomfort.Anonymous 5 wrote: ↑Thu Feb 02, 2023 5:40 amNo he doesn't need to do anything different. It's not selfish that he can't handle it. You are disgusting.Anonymous 6 wrote: ↑Thu Feb 02, 2023 2:03 amHe needs to be an adult and be there for his mother. No one wants to see their parents like that. No one likes visiting hospitals. But most of us do it anyway because these are our loved ones, our family. But this man is leaving his sister to carry this weight all on her own. She’s going to be there for her mother so she doesn’t die alone just like she did for her father. That’s really selfish of him.Anonymous 5 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 01, 2023 5:48 pm Maybe he just can't bring himself to see his parents like that.
Where has OP been while bro has been taking care of their parents on his own for years? It's pretty selfish she has not helped like he has and has made him do it.
Assuming our parents were kind & giving people during their life and sacrificed much to raise us, providing them emotional comfort with a visit or phone call, during their final time alive on this Earth is the “right” thing to do. To deny them that, is selfish, no matter the motive.
I can sympathize with “not wanting to see your parents like this” BUT this case specifically, is not a long slow slip into dementia where the parent does not even know the difference, these are elders who are experiment sadness at the silence from their son!
Life is full of unpleasantness at times, be it at the start of a family — with sleep deprivation and colic OR at the end of life when parents are no longe the vibrant figures they used to be, but as a culture we should value both ends of the life span and realize it’s important to support each other. You don’t just disappear, when the elder needs you.