I broke up with him when I found out he had a DUI
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Many tee totalers have their reasons and it doesn't make them boring. Some lived with alcoholic parents and were abused or neglected by them, some have had people they love killed by drunk drivers, and others like my GMIL were beaten by 2 husbands that drank too much. She left one, and the last one she hit with a skillet after a beating from him. It was the last time he ever drank alcohol and they lived happily ever after until he died from cancer 22.5 years ago.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.
RedBottoms wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 7:23 amoh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boringGuest wrote: ↑Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pmMost of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.Sure wrote: ↑Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:55 pm Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.
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I had a coworker go out to his car after leaving a bar. He was getting something out of it before his ride arrived. He was arrested for DUI. This was about ten years ago. Would you hold that against him?
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No, they are boring and high and mighty whatever their reasons. I had an alcoholic father-but I still drink. I don't care if others drink. I just don't have my panties crammed up my ass. Because I can separate the difference between drinking responsibly and being an alcoholic/irresponsible drinker.mcginnisc wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 7:58 am Many tee totalers have their reasons and it doesn't make them boring. Some lived with alcoholic parents and were abused or neglected by them, some have had people they love killed by drunk drivers, and others like my GMIL were beaten by 2 husbands that drank too much. She left one, and the last one she hit with a skillet after a beating from him. It was the last time he ever drank alcohol and they lived happily ever after until he died from cancer 22.5 years ago.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.
RedBottoms wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 7:23 amoh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boringGuest wrote: ↑Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pm
Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.
The tee totalers I know don't ever see a difference. Someone who has one cocktail at dinner with friends in their eyes is JUST as bad as the guy drinking a 12 pack every night of his life and then beating his wife and kids. They see no difference. Trust me, I know. My inlaws are tee totalers and they acted like I murdered God in front of them because I wanted a glass of wine with Thanksgiving dinner.
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I was wondering how long ago and if it ever happened again. People do learn from their mistakes.MistressMonster wrote: ↑Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pm Sounds like he learned his lesson from it. How long ago did this happen? Should it be held over his head for life?
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If you have to drink to have fun there's something wrong with you.RedBottoms wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 7:23 amoh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boringGuest wrote: ↑Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pmMost of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.Sure wrote: ↑Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:55 pm Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.
this. Plenty of people get DUIs and they are bullshit. Like they were just sleeping it off in their car and not actually going anywhere. And here the limit is so low that you could literally not be impaired at all and still be over the limit. I know a guy that walked the line in a handstand perfectly straight and they still gave him a DUI. But anyone knows that a drunk person could not successfully walk the line in a handstand. So was he really impaired? Probably not.Shaken1976 wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 8:06 am I had a coworker go out to his car after leaving a bar. He was getting something out of it before his ride arrived. He was arrested for DUI. This was about ten years ago. Would you hold that against him?
I can have fun lots of ways. But I also enjoy a drink. And there is nothing wrong with that. The people with mental issues are people like my inlaws that got the vapors because I wanted ONE glass of wine at dinner.jas wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 8:09 amIf you have to drink to have fun there's something wrong with you.RedBottoms wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 7:23 amoh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boringGuest wrote: ↑Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pm
Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.
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No, there's nothing wrong with that. People with mental issues have issues. Not all teetotalers have mental issues though.RedBottoms wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 8:11 amI can have fun lots of ways. But I also enjoy a drink. And there is nothing wrong with that. The people with mental issues are people like my inlaws that got the vapors because I wanted ONE glass of wine at dinner.jas wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 8:09 amIf you have to drink to have fun there's something wrong with you.RedBottoms wrote: ↑Tue Jun 26, 2018 7:23 am
oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring