I broke up with him when I found out he had a DUI

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I could never be with someone who would drink and then drive. It is something unforgiveable in my mind and there is no excuse for it.

I was dating this guy for a few months. We were out with friends when one of his friends was talking about his DUI arrest and my boyfriend mentioned his. I was shocked. I asked him when we were alone if it was true. He said yes and I told him sorry but I couldnt be with someone who would ever do that.

He said he wanted to explain but I told him no and to lose my number. I wouldnt want to be with anyone who has been arrested really but if it was for something small or stupid I would get over it. This is not small or stupid and I will not be with someone when I know they are capable of making that choice
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Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.
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Sounds like he learned his lesson from it. How long ago did this happen? Should it be held over his head for life?
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Sure wrote: Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:55 pm Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.
Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.
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MistressMonster wrote: Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pm Sounds like he learned his lesson from it. How long ago did this happen? Should it be held over his head for life?
I dont know and I dont care. In my mind it is 100% unforgivable
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Not something I would do as everyone in this world makes mistakes but seems like it was for the best if you feel this strongly about it.
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Guest wrote: Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:52 pm I could never be with someone who would drink and then drive. It is something unforgiveable in my mind and there is no excuse for it.

I was dating this guy for a few months. We were out with friends when one of his friends was talking about his DUI arrest and my boyfriend mentioned his. I was shocked. I asked him when we were alone if it was true. He said yes and I told him sorry but I couldnt be with someone who would ever do that.

He said he wanted to explain but I told him no and to lose my number. I wouldnt want to be with anyone who has been arrested really but if it was for something small or stupid I would get over it. This is not small or stupid and I will not be with someone when I know they are capable of making that choice

If it was a long time ago I don't see why it would be a deal breaker now. We all did stupid shit when we were younger.
I'll admit when I was 19 or 20 i drink and drives
Now at 36 i won't get behind the wheel even if I had a sip
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I would never be with someone that makes stupid, careless, potentially life altering decisions like drinking and driving.
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Well that is your choice. I just hope you have never made any MISTAKES in your life, and they don't get held over your head for life.


Guest wrote: Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:59 pm
MistressMonster wrote: Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pm Sounds like he learned his lesson from it. How long ago did this happen? Should it be held over his head for life?
I dont know and I dont care. In my mind it is 100% unforgivable
The oranges of the island are like blazing fire
Amongst the emerald boughs
And the lemons are like the paleness of a lover
Who has spent the night crying.


My soul was ripped to shreds on 10/27/14
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Guest wrote: Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:58 pm
Sure wrote: Mon Jun 25, 2018 11:55 pm Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.
Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.

Everyone who knows me now would say the same about me. But when I was 19 and 20 i did. You don't know what they have done before you met them and when they were younger.
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