Learn how to parent BM and stop calling all the time

[Guest]

Had a fucked up life-agreed. Yes, my father was abusive. I have cut him off. Now everything is great. Amazing husband that just took a week off of work to redo our master bathroom exactly how I wanted it. Kids I love. Lots of friends I love. Money to buy mostly what I want minus super expensive things.

I mean my husband is kinda perfect. This man taught himself how to do this.

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but thanks for trying to use my abusive father to insult me. I mean if that is all you can get to use against me-I must be doing pretty well

It took your husband a week to do that? How slow is he? I redid my kids bathroom that is about that size and it took me two days but only because it took a day for the tile to be set and grouted. Everything else was done the second day. If I had not redone the tile I would have been able to do the whole thing in less than a day

Paint has to dry before you put more coats on.

But he also took breaks to spend time with me and dentist appointments and shopping etc. Took him about 5 days.

I don't care how long it took-it looks amazing and he saved us several thousand dollars for not having to pay someone to do it. I can use that money to buy shoes now.

Your husband is slow point blank. I tiled the floor and the shower and painted.

[noitsmebecky]

Both of them are fucked up. Why would a mom contact a man that abused her kid?

You've been in therapy your whole entire life. That's not normal. It's unhealthy.

Citation needed? I have not always been in therapy. Where did I say that. Off and on for periods of time. And you are going down a very very very dangerous slippery slope. This could be seen as victim shaming and victim blaming. Also can be seen as mental health shaming to attack and insult someone for going to therapy. You are probably intentionally insulting half the people on this board right now.

She was being emotionally abused by him same as I was. And I have taken her to task more than once for allowing it for so long.

Spending your whole life in therapy is not healthy. You need to let go of all your anger and hatred towards people.

You playing the victim card is old.

I think it’s really sick that you’re trying to make someone engaging in treatment to process trauma and stay stable a problem.

[lunarprancer]

It's amazing how you always have a "friend" that's the exception to the rule.

lol its honestly how every divorced parent I know acts. Except my mom. She would call my Dad up and bitch at him about me. But most divorced parents I know don't do that. It shows maturity if you ask me

You certainly have a fucked up life. Didn't your dad abuse you or something?

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[RedBottoms]

It took your husband a week to do that? How slow is he? I redid my kids bathroom that is about that size and it took me two days but only because it took a day for the tile to be set and grouted. Everything else was done the second day. If I had not redone the tile I would have been able to do the whole thing in less than a day

Paint has to dry before you put more coats on.

But he also took breaks to spend time with me and dentist appointments and shopping etc. Took him about 5 days.

I don't care how long it took-it looks amazing and he saved us several thousand dollars for not having to pay someone to do it. I can use that money to buy shoes now.

Your husband is slow point blank. I tiled the floor and the shower and painted.

I never said he wasn't. He is slow. Because he just learned to do this stuff. I don't care if he is slow. I just want it done right

[WickedPissah]

Had a fucked up life-agreed. Yes, my father was abusive. I have cut him off. Now everything is great. Amazing husband that just took a week off of work to redo our master bathroom exactly how I wanted it. Kids I love. Lots of friends I love. Money to buy mostly what I want minus super expensive things.

I mean my husband is kinda perfect. This man taught himself how to do this.

36063676_10214721165116954_1739829206512041984_n.jpg

but thanks for trying to use my abusive father to insult me. I mean if that is all you can get to use against me-I must be doing pretty well

Both of them are fucked up. Why would a mom contact a man that abused her kid?

You've been in therapy your whole entire life. That's not normal. It's unhealthy.

Actually. Isn’t going to therapy to deal with things healthier than not dealing with them and using unhealthy coping skills?

There comes a time when one has to practice those skills on their own to see if they can do it.

[RedBottoms]

I am done arguing with her. She is going out of her way to goad me and basically dragging down and attacking people in therapy and abuse victims in her plight to "Get" me. Its gross. If she wants to insult me, do it without attacking other innocent people and the entire mental heath profession. People are worried enough about stigmas and often don't seek help and her words and actions are not helping that for sure.

Therapy is never shameful if you think you need it.

[WickedPissah]

Citation needed? I have not always been in therapy. Where did I say that. Off and on for periods of time. And you are going down a very very very dangerous slippery slope. This could be seen as victim shaming and victim blaming. Also can be seen as mental health shaming to attack and insult someone for going to therapy. You are probably intentionally insulting half the people on this board right now.

She was being emotionally abused by him same as I was. And I have taken her to task more than once for allowing it for so long.

Spending your whole life in therapy is not healthy. You need to let go of all your anger and hatred towards people.

You playing the victim card is old.

I think it’s really sick that you’re trying to make someone engaging in treatment to process trauma and stay stable a problem.

She knows what this is about.

[WickedPissah]

lol its honestly how every divorced parent I know acts. Except my mom. She would call my Dad up and bitch at him about me. But most divorced parents I know don't do that. It shows maturity if you ask me

You certainly have a fucked up life. Didn't your dad abuse you or something?

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[Guest]

lol its honestly how every divorced parent I know acts. Except my mom. She would call my Dad up and bitch at him about me. But most divorced parents I know don't do that. It shows maturity if you ask me

You certainly have a fucked up life. Didn't your dad abuse you or something?

Had a fucked up life-agreed. Yes, my father was abusive. I have cut him off. Now everything is great. Amazing husband that just took a week off of work to redo our master bathroom exactly how I wanted it. Kids I love. Lots of friends I love. Money to buy mostly what I want minus super expensive things.

I mean my husband is kinda perfect. This man taught himself how to do this.

36063676_10214721165116954_1739829206512041984_n.jpg

but thanks for trying to use my abusive father to insult me. I mean if that is all you can get to use against me-I must be doing pretty well

That's a "master bedroom"?

[WickedPissah]

I am done arguing with her. She is going out of her way to goad me and basically dragging down and attacking people in therapy and abuse victims in her plight to "Get" me. Its gross. If she wants to insult me, do it without attacking other innocent people and the entire mental heath profession. People are worried enough about stigmas and often don't seek help and her words and actions are not helping that for sure.

Therapy is never shameful if you think you need it.

I'm just pulling a you on you.