Now that she had her baby SM is constantly bitching about my kids having their own rooms

[Olioxenfree]

That order is ridiculous. Hopefully you go to court and the judge throws that out. Your kids are going to be so entitled.

[Anonymous 2]

I wouldn't be surprised if there's no such court order for them to have their own rooms and this mom is mad because the new baby has her own nursery.

SM can bitch all she wants. It’s her house. You helped create this situation for your kids. Now fix it by talking to them about sharing a room and giving compromise or just suck it up and hear the bitching.

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

Things change and circumstances change and you have to roll with the punches and make the best of it.
I always thought it was important for kids to have an extracurricular activity but because of certain circumstances, that’s not a viable possibility now, so tough. They go without that and we make the best of it.

[Anonymous 2]

Keep helping them to find reasons to not like it at dad's house. Eventually, they won't want to go. And you will win.

Feel better?

[Anonymous 1]

Keep helping them to find reasons to not like it at dad's house. Eventually, they won't want to go. And you will win.

Feel better?

They like their dads house. They are not liking their step mom.

[Oliviasmom72]

Um sure....

[BionicBunny]

Isn’t this two teen boys? Is there a third child, a girl?
If the father helped create this problem then all of you need to sit down and he needs to help create a solution and he can break it to the kids.

I didnt create this on my own. My ex up until SM started bitching felt strongly about them having their own rooms. Even when she was moving her kids in he was clear that his kids still go their own rooms.

So it isnt just on me. There is nothing wrong with a teen boy and girl not wanting to share a room together. There is nothing wrong with teens not wanting to share rooms with young children.

They arent ungrateful for wanting to keep the rooms they have had their whole lives

Well they are being ungrateful brats. You know it and I bet they do too. I bet they are enjoying having that power over a decision that affects her and her kids. Congratulations on what you created.

It is just the room thing but it is an every day several times a day thing.

Like they will be having a conversation not even involving the rooms and she will bring it up and call them ungrateful brats

She has even started saying she should start counting down the days until they leave. I could go on and on about it. My ex even knows it is an issue and has asked her to stop so she just does it when she is not around

The kids avoid her as much as possible but she is home all the time and my ex is not

[Anonymous 2]

Dad's house is now dad and SM's house. They either like it. Or they don't.

Keep helping them to find reasons to not like it at dad's house. Eventually, they won't want to go. And you will win.

Feel better?

They like their dads house. They are not liking their step mom.

[BionicBunny]

Probably. I’m confused about one thing though. Isn’t this two teen boys? She quoted me and said something about a teen boy and teen girl.

I wouldn't be surprised if there's no such court order for them to have their own rooms and this mom is mad because the new baby has her own nursery.

SM can bitch all she wants. It’s her house. You helped create this situation for your kids. Now fix it by talking to them about sharing a room and giving compromise or just suck it up and hear the bitching.

You dont just break a court order because things change. That isnt how it works

It what world is it okay for a SM to bitch constantly at the kids? They feel like she is intentionally trying to get them to not want to go there.

[Anonymous 2]

I think she is saying that her kids are 1 boy and 1 girl.

Probably. I’m confused about one thing though. Isn’t this two teen boys? She quoted me and said something about a teen boy and teen girl.

I wouldn't be surprised if there's no such court order for them to have their own rooms and this mom is mad because the new baby has her own nursery.

SM can bitch all she wants. It’s her house. You helped create this situation for your kids. Now fix it by talking to them about sharing a room and giving compromise or just suck it up and hear the bitching.

[BionicBunny]

Then you need to help them through that by not building their expectations up to having everything they want and not budging on compromising and letting them get whatever they want there. Of course it’s going to put a strain of their relationship with SM. I’m sure that’s just how you would like to see it go but it isn’t helping them it’s hurting them.

Keep helping them to find reasons to not like it at dad's house. Eventually, they won't want to go. And you will win.

Feel better?

They like their dads house. They are not liking their step mom.