Red, I was raised by a mentally ill mother (disassociate personality disorder) and both my mom and stepdad were sexual predators towards children (me, my siblings, and our friends). When I stopped letting them farm me out for sexual abuse, they started beating me. I recall exactly one time I got a hug as a child from my mom. We were neglected and ignored when we weren’t being sexually abused or beaten. We were taught that we didn’t matter, we were there to be used, and otherwise beaten for standing up for ourselves.RedBottoms wrote: ↑Thu Jan 10, 2019 8:48 amYou need to dump your therapist and come get lessons from me on how to be a B*tch and stand up for yourself. I really have no respect for mealy mouthed women who just let things happen to them over and over and over and never stand up for themselves. Like how f*ck up were your parents to raise you this way by never teaching you to advocate for yourself?Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 1:03 pmI’m almost ashamed to say because of everyone’s harsh judgement of me. But once he forced me to kiss him when I was dating someone. I felt so guilty like it was my fault I broke up with the guy. I doubt anyone here understands but sometimes a woman blames herself for being raped and mistreated and I’ve had a habit of that for years. Just stuff like that. He knows how to say the right words so I feel guilty and I do what he wants.Anonymous 3 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:20 am what is he actually doing thats ruining your relationships? I mustve missed that part.
Trust me I’m trying to change that. I know it’s my issue.
I’m positive I fell into this due to my childhood and am trying to move mountains to change my attitude. I fell in line with my husband because I was used to it.