I don't care if BM said Sd can't.......

[Anonymous 1]

Drive. SD is 16 and wants to get her drivers license. BM is totally against any of her kids driving until they are at least 18. She thinks that only adults should drive cars. Her brother died from a car accident at 16 because he was speeding and went off the road into a house.

The other kids had no problem with public transportation and got their drivers license after they were 18 and before they went to college.

SD goes to school in a different district. She is really struggling with not having a car because she is unable to do a lot of activities that her friends are doing. They dont have very good public transportation where she goes to school and almost all of her friends have their own cars.

DH has never had a problem with her getting her license. He knows BM wont ever agree with it but he doesnt agree with her view at all. He did try to sit down and talk to BM about it to maybe come to some sort of compromise but BM wouldnt even talk about it.

SD only needed DHs signature to get a permit. Now DH and I are teaching her to drive. We can only do it when she is at our house and I am home a lot more and do most of the errands so I have a lot more opportunity to teach her.

BM is angry at both of us. She even brought up court but she always does, it is always a bluff. It isnt like she could do much anyway a judge wont say that a 16 year old cant get their license because their mom is afraid.

I understand that it must be scary to go through what she did and have your own child want to drive but that doesnt mean you should hold your child back. It isnt like this is some crazy thing we are doing it is just a kid learning to drive when almost everyone else learns also.

Just wanted to vent. I have been ignoring BM and will continue to but her meltdowns are making things stressful for the kids which isnt good for anyone.

[Anonymous 2]

Oh more BM mad and court. How refreshing. At this point you are just trying to ruin this website and drive people away.

[Deleted User 1990]

Maybe she has a gut instinct.

We just buried two teenagers in the last month and now I drive by their graves every day. It’s scared me enough to not want my kids getting their permit yet.

My twins are only 14 though , so they’ve got time, they just want one.

[Momto2boys973]

All these poor kids of broken families…. They’re the on,y ones that get screwed when their parents can’t co-parent properly and just salt on their wounds with stepparents who think they have a right to an input.

[Anonymous 1]

All these poor kids of broken families…. They’re the on,y ones that get screwed when their parents can’t co-parent properly and just salt on their wounds with stepparents who think they have a right to an input.

I have a right to an input in my own house. Usually dh and BM coparent very well and are able to compromise and work through things. That doesn't work when BM is irrational about an issue.

[Momto2boys973]

I agree. Seriously, all these posts boot evil MOTHERS, just daring to care about their children when the kids have all these wonderful, caring and loving stepmoms who just want them to be happy. It’s hard to believe 90% of that crap.

Oh more BM mad and court. How refreshing. At this point you are just trying to ruin this website and drive people away.

[Anonymous 1]

Maybe she has a gut instinct.

We just buried two teenagers in the last month and now I drive by their graves every day. It’s scared me enough to not want my kids getting their permit yet.

My twins are only 14 though , so they’ve got time, they just want one.

That is sad but SD is a very cautious driver and just wants to learn so she can do it safely. It isn't like there is a huge difference in learning to drive at 16 vs 18.

[Anonymous 1]

I agree. Seriously, all these posts boot evil MOTHERS, just daring to care about their children when the kids have all these wonderful, caring and loving stepmoms who just want them to be happy. It’s hard to believe 90% of that crap.

Oh more BM mad and court. How refreshing. At this point you are just trying to ruin this website and drive people away.

You are really stretching. BM is not evil by any means. I didn't say or imply that. Also I don't only do things that make my step kids happy.

[Deleted User 1977]

Does the child live with her bio dad during the school week on a full-time basis or only part of the time?

IOW, if she lives with her BM during the school week (even part-time)what car will she be driving.... allowed to drive....to school?

[Momto2boys973]

In your HOUSE, yes. In other people’s children, even if they’re in your house, NO. If there’s a disagreement between the parents, that’s for them to figure it out, however you feel about the mother being “irrational”. It’s none of your business. You should just stand back and let them deal with it. Unless driving at 16 is an absolute rule you want in your home, no one’s breaking your house rules by not wanting their children not to drive at that age.

All these poor kids of broken families…. They’re the on,y ones that get screwed when their parents can’t co-parent properly and just salt on their wounds with stepparents who think they have a right to an input.

I have a right to an input in my own house. Usually dh and BM coparent very well and are able to compromise and work through things. That doesn't work when BM is irrational about an issue.