My in laws have never met my kids because they are smokers

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Anonymous 1 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 11:13 am I dont allow smokers around my kids. I am not risking their health. They were born premature and with lung problems. My in laws smoke 2 packs a day. They have never met their grandchildren because of it. DH feels the same way. They havent met other family members either.

His parents will never stop smoking (their words) so we dont allow them around the kids.

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RIZZY wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 4:08 pm My dad just passed away. He was a hoarder and he often did not smell good. There were a few times he came over and his clothes were visibly dirty. I'm so glad I didn't tell him he couldn't come to my house or see my kids.
Condolences to your family.
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Anonymous 4 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:19 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:05 pm
Anonymous 4 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 2:30 pm how about them not smoking around the kids
Even if they aren't actively smoking they still smell like it... Heavily.
there are ways around that bathing and changing clothes before they come see the kids
They would have to bathe in a place that's never been smoked in and then change into brand new clothes. Everything from their house would still have nicotine residue on it.
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RIZZY wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 4:08 pm My dad just passed away. He was a hoarder and he often did not smell good. There were a few times he came over and his clothes were visibly dirty. I'm so glad I didn't tell him he couldn't come to my house or see my kids.
Good for you. Not everyone has to allow smokers around their kids.

If your dad was so bad off then why didn't you help him? If his clothing was visibly dirty why didn't you wash them? Smh.
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RIZZY wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 4:08 pm My dad just passed away. He was a hoarder and he often did not smell good. There were a few times he came over and his clothes were visibly dirty. I'm so glad I didn't tell him he couldn't come to my house or see my kids.
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Anonymous 1 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:43 pm
Anonymous 4 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:19 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:05 pm

Even if they aren't actively smoking they still smell like it... Heavily.
there are ways around that bathing and changing clothes before they come see the kids
They smoke in their home and their car.
There are ways you're just full of excuses.
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Yeah you that you're depriving your children of a relationship with their grandparents?? Is that what you're looking for? Applause?
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Anonymous 5 wrote: Fri Jul 01, 2022 7:21 am
RIZZY wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 4:08 pm My dad just passed away. He was a hoarder and he often did not smell good. There were a few times he came over and his clothes were visibly dirty. I'm so glad I didn't tell him he couldn't come to my house or see my kids.
Good for you. Not everyone has to allow smokers around their kids.

If your dad was so bad off then why didn't you help him? If his clothing was visibly dirty why didn't you wash them? Smh.
Because when people are that messed up mentally, it agitates them more to inflict your version of "help" on them.
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Anonymous 5 wrote: Fri Jul 01, 2022 7:18 am
Anonymous 4 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:19 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:05 pm

Even if they aren't actively smoking they still smell like it... Heavily.
there are ways around that bathing and changing clothes before they come see the kids
They would have to bathe in a place that's never been smoked in and then change into brand new clothes. Everything from their house would still have nicotine residue on it.
that is nothing more than excuses.
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Anonymous 4 wrote: Sat Jul 02, 2022 2:15 am
Anonymous 5 wrote: Fri Jul 01, 2022 7:18 am
Anonymous 4 wrote: Thu Jun 30, 2022 3:19 pm

there are ways around that bathing and changing clothes before they come see the kids
They would have to bathe in a place that's never been smoked in and then change into brand new clothes. Everything from their house would still have nicotine residue on it.
that is nothing more than excuses.
It's not an excuse it's reality. I used to have an asthma attack every time I was around them .my kids have much more serious lung issues than I do. It's not worth the risk.
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