Do you love your kids unconditionally?

[Anonymous 1]

I hate posts like this.

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[Anonymous 1]

"Dear Child, we certainly will not love you unconditionally." That hurts my EARS, let alone my heart.

Growing up, my parents always told me that there was no such thing as unconditional love, and that they certainly did NOT love me unconditionally.

I can understand distancing yourself from your grown kids if they do something egregious like steal money from your home, become drug addicts who refuse to get help and are unhealthy to be around, go to prison for rape or murder, physically or sexually abuse their sibling, etc. I don’t think you really stop loving them though.

Despite what my kids did, I would always love them. What about you?

It was very difficult for me to come to terms with as a kid and extremely hurtful. I couldn’t understand what I had done that was so horrible that my parents would say such a thing. I have since realized they were the problem, not me.

[Anonymous 1]

No I don't put strings on my love. Parents are supposed to love their kids unconditionally. If you cannot, then you should not be a parent.

That’s what I always told my parents, and they always told me unconditional love doesn’t exist and that there’s no such thing. Keep in mind, I didn’t do anything bad as a teenager other than lie to them about my whereabouts and have a boyfriend they disapproved of. I went to a good college and was a straight A student, never slept around or did drugs, etc. They acted like I was somehow the Devil. Lol

I'm sorry. I would limit their access to my kids if I were you.

Thank you. It is just one of the many reasons we do not see them much. I keep them at a distance from my kids.

[WickedPissah]

Good point! I've often wondered about that, too. I can't even imagine how a mother deals with that.

I always wonder about parents where one of their kids killed their sibling. That happened where I grew up they did a show about it on twisted sister on the ID channel.

I always wonder about the mom of the sisters and how that is.

I just re-read the article after the sister was paroled her mother has reconciled per 2012 but has not forgiven her. Family members think she should have gotten life. The boyfriend got life without parole.

My heart goes out to that mother.

[Momto2boys973]

Wow, that’s terrible. I can’t begin to imagine. I stand by what I said: I would love my child because that’s out of my control. But that would actually just make it so much harder and more painful.

I always wonder about parents where one of their kids killed their sibling. That happened where I grew up they did a show about it on twisted sister on the ID channel.

I always wonder about the mom of the sisters and how that is.

[Frau Holle]

I love my children so unconditionally I would become evil to protect them.

[lauren08]

I will always love my girls more than anything, even if I don’t approve of decisions they make. My love for them is unconditional.

[Anonymous 3]

I can't imagine how that must have made you feel. I would imagine it might cause a kid to feel very insecure...and maybe even unsafe. I'm sorry you experienced that. I'm glad you at least now realize that it wasn't YOU. It was them. Are your parents still living? Have you ever told them how you feel about them having said that?

"Dear Child, we certainly will not love you unconditionally." That hurts my EARS, let alone my heart.

Growing up, my parents always told me that there was no such thing as unconditional love, and that they certainly did NOT love me unconditionally.

I can understand distancing yourself from your grown kids if they do something egregious like steal money from your home, become drug addicts who refuse to get help and are unhealthy to be around, go to prison for rape or murder, physically or sexually abuse their sibling, etc. I don’t think you really stop loving them though.

Despite what my kids did, I would always love them. What about you?

It was very difficult for me to come to terms with as a kid and extremely hurtful. I couldn’t understand what I had done that was so horrible that my parents would say such a thing. I have since realized they were the problem, not me.

[Anonymous 3]

What a sad situation. My heart goes out to that mom, too.

A little off topic: I love the ID Channel!

Good point! I've often wondered about that, too. I can't even imagine how a mother deals with that.

I always wonder about parents where one of their kids killed their sibling. That happened where I grew up they did a show about it on twisted sister on the ID channel.

I always wonder about the mom of the sisters and how that is.

I just re-read the article after the sister was paroled her mother has reconciled per 2012 but has not forgiven her. Family members think she should have gotten life. The boyfriend got life without parole.

My heart goes out to that mother.

[mater-three]

I hate posts like this.

Uh, ok? Feel free to not read or reply.

I could say the same about you. We each made a choice and we were both free to follow through with that choice.