I'm not planning on telling him I'm pregnant until after I move

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My boyfriend and I broke up after being together for 6 years. There were many reasons why but mainly because he has a wandering eye and I am pretty sure he has wandered into someone else's bed. I have no actual proof but it is the only thing that adds up. There is no way to have a future with someone you don't trust.

When I lost my job a few months ago he actually laughed and said now I was stuck with him. That wasn't the case. I moved out with friends and started applying for jobs.

I just got offered an amazing job in another state far away. I accepted it and signed the contract and all that. While looking for a place to live I started feeling really sick. I went to get tested thinking it was Covid and it wasn't. They ran some tests and it turns out I'm pregnant.

I wasn't sure if I even wanted to keep the baby at first but I can't bring myself to have an abortion. I am going to keep the baby.

I am not telling my ex until I am completely moved out of the state. I know he will try and get back with me. I know he will want to pretend like we are a happy family. I know he will get ugly and try to force me to stay when I tell him we aren't going to be together. If I am gone then he has no control over any of that.

Part of me wants to not tell him at all but he will find out anyway.

He is going to have to go through court to prove paternity and fight for visitations.
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Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:14 pm
My boyfriend and I broke up after being together for 6 years. There were many reasons why but mainly because he has a wandering eye and I am pretty sure he has wandered into someone else's bed. I have no actual proof but it is the only thing that adds up. There is no way to have a future with someone you don't trust.

When I lost my job a few months ago he actually laughed and said now I was stuck with him. That wasn't the case. I moved out with friends and started applying for jobs.

I just got offered an amazing job in another state far away. I accepted it and signed the contract and all that. While looking for a place to live I started feeling really sick. I went to get tested thinking it was Covid and it wasn't. They ran some tests and it turns out I'm pregnant.

I wasn't sure if I even wanted to keep the baby at first but I can't bring myself to have an abortion. I am going to keep the baby.

I am not telling my ex until I am completely moved out of the state. I know he will try and get back with me. I know he will want to pretend like we are a happy family. I know he will get ugly and try to force me to stay when I tell him we aren't going to be together. If I am gone then he has no control over any of that.

Part of me wants to not tell him at all but he will find out anyway.

He is going to have to go through court to prove paternity and fight for visitations.
Well don't go holding your hand out for CS if you plan to be this way.
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MistressMonster wrote:
Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:23 pm
Anonymous 1 wrote:
Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:14 pm
My boyfriend and I broke up after being together for 6 years. There were many reasons why but mainly because he has a wandering eye and I am pretty sure he has wandered into someone else's bed. I have no actual proof but it is the only thing that adds up. There is no way to have a future with someone you don't trust.

When I lost my job a few months ago he actually laughed and said now I was stuck with him. That wasn't the case. I moved out with friends and started applying for jobs.

I just got offered an amazing job in another state far away. I accepted it and signed the contract and all that. While looking for a place to live I started feeling really sick. I went to get tested thinking it was Covid and it wasn't. They ran some tests and it turns out I'm pregnant.

I wasn't sure if I even wanted to keep the baby at first but I can't bring myself to have an abortion. I am going to keep the baby.

I am not telling my ex until I am completely moved out of the state. I know he will try and get back with me. I know he will want to pretend like we are a happy family. I know he will get ugly and try to force me to stay when I tell him we aren't going to be together. If I am gone then he has no control over any of that.

Part of me wants to not tell him at all but he will find out anyway.

He is going to have to go through court to prove paternity and fight for visitations.
Well don't go holding your hand out for CS if you plan to be this way.
I'm not going to go after him for child support but if he wants rights and visitations it will be set up by the state. I don't see anything wrong with waiting to tell him. I'm moving anyway so why make that process harder for me? Telling him now isn't going to change the outcome it will just avoid unnecessary drama.
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Impressive. They test for Covid and Pregnancy with a nasal swab huh. Also this has been done before.
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Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:33 pm
Impressive. They test for Covid and Pregnancy with a nasal swab huh. Also this has been done before.
After the Covid test came back negative and I was still feeling weird other tests were ran. Never said it was nasal swabs but that is a funny thought.

Others have been in similar situations. Shit happens in life.
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Who gives a shit. This has been done to death. You are free to do whatever the hell you want. Why post about it.
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Yay for irresponsible breeding.
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Are you sure it's just another STATE that you're moving to?

The last time I read this story, the pregnant one was moving back to her home COUNTRY.
Anonymous 1 wrote:
Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:14 pm
My boyfriend and I broke up after being together for 6 years. There were many reasons why but mainly because he has a wandering eye and I am pretty sure he has wandered into someone else's bed. I have no actual proof but it is the only thing that adds up. There is no way to have a future with someone you don't trust.

When I lost my job a few months ago he actually laughed and said now I was stuck with him. That wasn't the case. I moved out with friends and started applying for jobs.

I just got offered an amazing job in another state far away. I accepted it and signed the contract and all that. While looking for a place to live I started feeling really sick. I went to get tested thinking it was Covid and it wasn't. They ran some tests and it turns out I'm pregnant.

I wasn't sure if I even wanted to keep the baby at first but I can't bring myself to have an abortion. I am going to keep the baby.

I am not telling my ex until I am completely moved out of the state. I know he will try and get back with me. I know he will want to pretend like we are a happy family. I know he will get ugly and try to force me to stay when I tell him we aren't going to be together. If I am gone then he has no control over any of that.

Part of me wants to not tell him at all but he will find out anyway.

He is going to have to go through court to prove paternity and fight for visitations.
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Anonymous 2 wrote:
Fri Jul 31, 2020 6:33 pm
Impressive. They test for Covid and Pregnancy with a nasal swab huh. Also this has been done before.


Not with COVID! That part's new!
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Feels like we’ve been down this road before.
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