My confession about my husband

[Anonymous 1]

My husband is very awkward about S*x. By that I mean, he won't even kiss me in front of anyone. He gets squirmy around the topic of S*x. When we do have S*x it's very vanilla, and he does not like it if I try to initiate it. It turns him off. He doesn't like it when I say anything remotely sexual even in jest. Basically, he acts like a Puritan, only he isn't religious himself. I don't know why it didn't bother me before, when we got married. But now, it's annoying as f**k. And yes we have talked about it before. As far as I know, from what he says, there is no past trauma. He says he isn't comfortable about being so open. And he thinks the way I act sometimes is "inappropriate for a lady to act that way".

So I have some questions; could you stay married to a person like this? Would this bother you? How would you handle something like this?

[Anonymous 2]

I'd prefer that.

[Anonymous 3]

Why were you stupid enough to marry him?

[mommy_jules]

How old is he?

[Anonymous 1]

How old is he?

He's 38.

[Mamaof5]

Nope, not a marriage I would stay in, or a marriage I would’ve gotten into to begin with. S*x is a big part of a relationship and it has to work

[Anonymous 1]

Nope, not a marriage I would stay in, or a marriage I would’ve gotten into to begin with. S*x is a big part of a relationship and it has to work

I'll admit, I really didn't think about how important S*x was back then. I loved the way he made me feel, he made me laugh. S*x was okay, but I thought it would get better. Just didn't put much thought into that part because everything else was good. And really before having kids, his Puritan like ways wasn't that bad. He would joke about things. But once we had our first, thats when he started to become more conservative. At first I thought it was shyness, but now I know it's just his personality. It really sucks.

[Mamaof5]

Nope, not a marriage I would stay in, or a marriage I would’ve gotten into to begin with. S*x is a big part of a relationship and it has to work

I'll admit, I really didn't think about how important S*x was back then. I loved the way he made me feel, he made me laugh. S*x was okay, but I thought it would get better. Just didn't put much thought into that part because everything else was good. And really before having kids, his Puritan like ways wasn't that bad. He would joke about things. But once we had our first, thats when he started to become more conservative. At first I thought it was shyness, but now I know it's just his personality. It really sucks.

I’m sorry. It doesn’t seem like something that’ll change. I wouldn’t stay

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

If we were a family with children, I would stay until the children are grown.

[Olioxenfree]

I would be fine being with someone who wasn't super into S*x. I would not be okay with being with someone who makes any statements about how a "lady" should act.