Pjmm wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 10:10 pmMe either. There have been married couples that married quickly and live happily. I wouldn't do it myself but not every man who marries quickly is a user. Hindsight is 20/20.Anonymous 2 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 6:54 pm I can't stand people with that whole "told you so" mentality.
Get the f**k over yourself, friend!
I told her so, I told her so
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DH and I got engaged 3 months after we started dating. Granted, we had to wait a year and a half to get married, but itโs 24 years later and weโre still together and happy.
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Reading comprehension. She said he adapted her two oldest kids. Not her.pinkbutterfly66 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 7:53 pmAll four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.Anonymous 1 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 6:49 pm Im just posting on here because I don't want to be a total bitch and say it to her face.
37 year old friend with two kids meet a guy 41 years old - falls in love, he proposes within 6 months of meeting.
She knows little to nothing about him, no real family, no friends, claims no past wives or children.
Marry he moves into her rental with her and her kids, quickly impregnates her twice in two years.
Now she's 40 with 2 babies and 2 tweens. in a two bedroom rental.
She talks to me like they are on track to buy a house - they are house shopping, they are mortgage shopping.
Push comes to shove, he can't get a mortgage - she doesn't tell me details. She gets the mortgage in her name after a hefty DP from her parents.
I said listen, you've invested a lot in this this guy in 3 years, maybe you need to find out more about him.
no no no he's awesome.
He now wants to adopt her two older children, even though their father is still semi in the picture (doesn't live close, not a good visitor, but pays child support without fail).
I tell her its a mistake, she tells me she knows what she's doing.
She is now 43 years old, mortgage, 4 kids , all either naturally or through adoption with this guy - and he leaves. disappears into the night. She files a missing person report, they locate him, he's not in any harm but they can't tell her where he is, but only that he's confirmed okay.
She can't afford her mortgage , she can't afford her bills, she has zero child support now, and no hope of getting any , anytime soon (legal system works slow).
She claims she has no idea what happened he was there they were happy and he's gone the next.
Six years she was with this man and went all in with him despite all the red flags popping up over and over and over.
I'm being supportive, because that's what she needs but dang girl.. I TOLD YOU SO
My brother did that. Let his ex wife new dh adopt his two teen daughters so he didn't have to pay child supportpinkbutterfly66 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 8:55 pmYeah, I get that. But courts generally don't let steps adopt kids if there is an active father and I would think that the courts would include paying child support as being active. Of course, it's all too convenient for this drama for the kid's dad to roll over and allow his ex's new husband to adopt his kids so he doesn't have to pay child support. So much of this screams troll.Baconqueen13 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 8:24 pmYou missed the bit about guy wanting to adopt older kids. So All 4 kids are hers and her spouse adopted the older two before he up and disappeared so she no longer gets child support form the father/s of the 2 older children. The timeline is all screwed up though. We know she filed a missing person's report but have been given no indication of how long it was until they found him or how long it's been since.pinkbutterfly66 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 7:53 pm
All four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.
Honestly it sounds a bit rushed and unless he was the only one with access to the accounts there is no reason she shouldn't be able to cover some of the expenses until the legal system steps in despite how slowly they work.
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but why would she word it like that either naturally or by adoption through this other guy all four of those kids are biologically hers that's where the confusion is because whether he adopted the other two children or not she still would have had four children. It makes it seem like her friend adopted childrenAnonymous 5 wrote: โMon Jan 20, 2020 1:16 amReading comprehension. She said he adapted her two oldest kids. Not her.pinkbutterfly66 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 7:53 pmAll four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.Anonymous 1 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 6:49 pm Im just posting on here because I don't want to be a total bitch and say it to her face.
37 year old friend with two kids meet a guy 41 years old - falls in love, he proposes within 6 months of meeting.
She knows little to nothing about him, no real family, no friends, claims no past wives or children.
Marry he moves into her rental with her and her kids, quickly impregnates her twice in two years.
Now she's 40 with 2 babies and 2 tweens. in a two bedroom rental.
She talks to me like they are on track to buy a house - they are house shopping, they are mortgage shopping.
Push comes to shove, he can't get a mortgage - she doesn't tell me details. She gets the mortgage in her name after a hefty DP from her parents.
I said listen, you've invested a lot in this this guy in 3 years, maybe you need to find out more about him.
no no no he's awesome.
He now wants to adopt her two older children, even though their father is still semi in the picture (doesn't live close, not a good visitor, but pays child support without fail).
I tell her its a mistake, she tells me she knows what she's doing.
She is now 43 years old, mortgage, 4 kids , all either naturally or through adoption with this guy - and he leaves. disappears into the night. She files a missing person report, they locate him, he's not in any harm but they can't tell her where he is, but only that he's confirmed okay.
She can't afford her mortgage , she can't afford her bills, she has zero child support now, and no hope of getting any , anytime soon (legal system works slow).
She claims she has no idea what happened he was there they were happy and he's gone the next.
Six years she was with this man and went all in with him despite all the red flags popping up over and over and over.
I'm being supportive, because that's what she needs but dang girl.. I TOLD YOU SO
Because all 4 of her children are legally his children. It leaves her with no means of obtaining child support since this guy has disappeared into the night.
I don't know whether it's true or not, but it's not hard to follow.
I don't know whether it's true or not, but it's not hard to follow.
OBXPrincess wrote: โMon Jan 20, 2020 6:17 ambut why would she word it like that either naturally or by adoption through this other guy all four of those kids are biologically hers that's where the confusion is because whether he adopted the other two children or not she still would have had four children. It makes it seem like her friend adopted childrenAnonymous 5 wrote: โMon Jan 20, 2020 1:16 amReading comprehension. She said he adapted her two oldest kids. Not her.pinkbutterfly66 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 7:53 pm
All four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.
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I fully understand that, I can comprehend exactly what the post is about and what it says but it's weird the way that she worded it because it makes it seem like SHE adopted children not him. all she had to do was say now she has four kids with no means of being able to take care of them and then there would be no confusionAnonymous 7 wrote: โMon Jan 20, 2020 6:45 am Because all 4 of her children are legally his children. It leaves her with no means of obtaining child support since this guy has disappeared into the night.
I don't know whether it's true or not, but it's not hard to follow.
OBXPrincess wrote: โMon Jan 20, 2020 6:17 ambut why would she word it like that either naturally or by adoption through this other guy all four of those kids are biologically hers that's where the confusion is because whether he adopted the other two children or not she still would have had four children. It makes it seem like her friend adopted childrenAnonymous 5 wrote: โMon Jan 20, 2020 1:16 am
Reading comprehension. She said he adapted her two oldest kids. Not her.
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While I agree that there are couples who met, marry quickly and have successful marriages, I think if there are children involved you tap the brakes and slow it down. It is one thing if you are on your own and entirely a different story when you are responsible for the emotional and physical well-being of a child.Momto2boys973 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 10:33 pm DH and I got engaged 3 months after we started dating. Granted, we had to wait a year and a half to get married, but itโs 24 years later and weโre still together and happy.
Pjmm wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 10:10 pmMe either. There have been married couples that married quickly and live happily. I wouldn't do it myself but not every man who marries quickly is a user. Hindsight is 20/20.Anonymous 2 wrote: โSun Jan 19, 2020 6:54 pm I can't stand people with that whole "told you so" mentality.
Get the f**k over yourself, friend!