I told her so, I told her so

[Deleted User 670]

Im just posting on here because I don't want to be a total bitch and say it to her face.

37 year old friend with two kids meet a guy 41 years old - falls in love, he proposes within 6 months of meeting.
She knows little to nothing about him, no real family, no friends, claims no past wives or children.

Marry he moves into her rental with her and her kids, quickly impregnates her twice in two years.
Now she's 40 with 2 babies and 2 tweens. in a two bedroom rental.

She talks to me like they are on track to buy a house - they are house shopping, they are mortgage shopping.
Push comes to shove, he can't get a mortgage - she doesn't tell me details. She gets the mortgage in her name after a hefty DP from her parents.

I said listen, you've invested a lot in this this guy in 3 years, maybe you need to find out more about him.
no no no he's awesome.

He now wants to adopt her two older children, even though their father is still semi in the picture (doesn't live close, not a good visitor, but pays child support without fail).

I tell her its a mistake, she tells me she knows what she's doing.

She is now 43 years old, mortgage, 4 kids , all either naturally or through adoption with this guy - and he leaves. disappears into the night. She files a missing person report, they locate him, he's not in any harm but they can't tell her where he is, but only that he's confirmed okay.

She can't afford her mortgage , she can't afford her bills, she has zero child support now, and no hope of getting any , anytime soon (legal system works slow).

She claims she has no idea what happened he was there they were happy and he's gone the next.

Six years she was with this man and went all in with him despite all the red flags popping up over and over and over.

I'm being supportive, because that's what she needs but dang girl.. I TOLD YOU SO

All four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.

[mojogirl]

Im just posting on here because I don't want to be a total bitch and say it to her face.

37 year old friend with two kids meet a guy 41 years old - falls in love, he proposes within 6 months of meeting.
She knows little to nothing about him, no real family, no friends, claims no past wives or children.

Marry he moves into her rental with her and her kids, quickly impregnates her twice in two years.
Now she's 40 with 2 babies and 2 tweens. in a two bedroom rental.

She talks to me like they are on track to buy a house - they are house shopping, they are mortgage shopping.
Push comes to shove, he can't get a mortgage - she doesn't tell me details. She gets the mortgage in her name after a hefty DP from her parents.

I said listen, you've invested a lot in this this guy in 3 years, maybe you need to find out more about him.
no no no he's awesome.

He now wants to adopt her two older children, even though their father is still semi in the picture (doesn't live close, not a good visitor, but pays child support without fail).

I tell her its a mistake, she tells me she knows what she's doing.

She is now 43 years old, mortgage, 4 kids , all either naturally or through adoption with this guy - and he leaves. disappears into the night. She files a missing person report, they locate him, he's not in any harm but they can't tell her where he is, but only that he's confirmed okay.

She can't afford her mortgage , she can't afford her bills, she has zero child support now, and no hope of getting any , anytime soon (legal system works slow).

She claims she has no idea what happened he was there they were happy and he's gone the next.

Six years she was with this man and went all in with him despite all the red flags popping up over and over and over.

I'm being supportive, because that's what she needs but dang girl.. I TOLD YOU SO

Have a cookie. You deserve it.

[Baconqueen13]

Im just posting on here because I don't want to be a total bitch and say it to her face.

37 year old friend with two kids meet a guy 41 years old - falls in love, he proposes within 6 months of meeting.
She knows little to nothing about him, no real family, no friends, claims no past wives or children.

Marry he moves into her rental with her and her kids, quickly impregnates her twice in two years.
Now she's 40 with 2 babies and 2 tweens. in a two bedroom rental.

She talks to me like they are on track to buy a house - they are house shopping, they are mortgage shopping.
Push comes to shove, he can't get a mortgage - she doesn't tell me details. She gets the mortgage in her name after a hefty DP from her parents.

I said listen, you've invested a lot in this this guy in 3 years, maybe you need to find out more about him.
no no no he's awesome.

He now wants to adopt her two older children, even though their father is still semi in the picture (doesn't live close, not a good visitor, but pays child support without fail).

I tell her its a mistake, she tells me she knows what she's doing.

She is now 43 years old, mortgage, 4 kids , all either naturally or through adoption with this guy - and he leaves. disappears into the night. She files a missing person report, they locate him, he's not in any harm but they can't tell her where he is, but only that he's confirmed okay.

She can't afford her mortgage , she can't afford her bills, she has zero child support now, and no hope of getting any , anytime soon (legal system works slow).

She claims she has no idea what happened he was there they were happy and he's gone the next.

Six years she was with this man and went all in with him despite all the red flags popping up over and over and over.

I'm being supportive, because that's what she needs but dang girl.. I TOLD YOU SO

All four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.

You missed the bit about guy wanting to adopt older kids. So All 4 kids are hers and her spouse adopted the older two before he up and disappeared so she no longer gets child support form the father/s of the 2 older children. The timeline is all screwed up though. We know she filed a missing person's report but have been given no indication of how long it was until they found him or how long it's been since.
Honestly it sounds a bit rushed and unless he was the only one with access to the accounts there is no reason she shouldn't be able to cover some of the expenses until the legal system steps in despite how slowly they work.

[MistressMonster]

Im just posting on here because I don't want to be a total bitch and say it to her face.

37 year old friend with two kids meet a guy 41 years old - falls in love, he proposes within 6 months of meeting.
She knows little to nothing about him, no real family, no friends, claims no past wives or children.

Marry he moves into her rental with her and her kids, quickly impregnates her twice in two years.
Now she's 40 with 2 babies and 2 tweens. in a two bedroom rental.

She talks to me like they are on track to buy a house - they are house shopping, they are mortgage shopping.
Push comes to shove, he can't get a mortgage - she doesn't tell me details. She gets the mortgage in her name after a hefty DP from her parents.

I said listen, you've invested a lot in this this guy in 3 years, maybe you need to find out more about him.
no no no he's awesome.

He now wants to adopt her two older children, even though their father is still semi in the picture (doesn't live close, not a good visitor, but pays child support without fail).

I tell her its a mistake, she tells me she knows what she's doing.

She is now 43 years old, mortgage, 4 kids , all either naturally or through adoption with this guy - and he leaves. disappears into the night. She files a missing person report, they locate him, he's not in any harm but they can't tell her where he is, but only that he's confirmed okay.

She can't afford her mortgage , she can't afford her bills, she has zero child support now, and no hope of getting any , anytime soon (legal system works slow).

She claims she has no idea what happened he was there they were happy and he's gone the next.

Six years she was with this man and went all in with him despite all the red flags popping up over and over and over.

I'm being supportive, because that's what she needs but dang girl.. I TOLD YOU SO

There is no point in saying "told you so". I'm sure she feels like a dolt now. Can't change her past now. She can only move forward.

[Deleted User 670]

Im just posting on here because I don't want to be a total bitch and say it to her face.

37 year old friend with two kids meet a guy 41 years old - falls in love, he proposes within 6 months of meeting.
She knows little to nothing about him, no real family, no friends, claims no past wives or children.

Marry he moves into her rental with her and her kids, quickly impregnates her twice in two years.
Now she's 40 with 2 babies and 2 tweens. in a two bedroom rental.

She talks to me like they are on track to buy a house - they are house shopping, they are mortgage shopping.
Push comes to shove, he can't get a mortgage - she doesn't tell me details. She gets the mortgage in her name after a hefty DP from her parents.

I said listen, you've invested a lot in this this guy in 3 years, maybe you need to find out more about him.
no no no he's awesome.

He now wants to adopt her two older children, even though their father is still semi in the picture (doesn't live close, not a good visitor, but pays child support without fail).

I tell her its a mistake, she tells me she knows what she's doing.

She is now 43 years old, mortgage, 4 kids , all either naturally or through adoption with this guy - and he leaves. disappears into the night. She files a missing person report, they locate him, he's not in any harm but they can't tell her where he is, but only that he's confirmed okay.

She can't afford her mortgage , she can't afford her bills, she has zero child support now, and no hope of getting any , anytime soon (legal system works slow).

She claims she has no idea what happened he was there they were happy and he's gone the next.

Six years she was with this man and went all in with him despite all the red flags popping up over and over and over.

I'm being supportive, because that's what she needs but dang girl.. I TOLD YOU SO

All four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.

You missed the bit about guy wanting to adopt older kids. So All 4 kids are hers and her spouse adopted the older two before he up and disappeared so she no longer gets child support form the father/s of the 2 older children. The timeline is all screwed up though. We know she filed a missing person's report but have been given no indication of how long it was until they found him or how long it's been since.
Honestly it sounds a bit rushed and unless he was the only one with access to the accounts there is no reason she shouldn't be able to cover some of the expenses until the legal system steps in despite how slowly they work.

Yeah, I get that. But courts generally don't let steps adopt kids if there is an active father and I would think that the courts would include paying child support as being active. Of course, it's all too convenient for this drama for the kid's dad to roll over and allow his ex's new husband to adopt his kids so he doesn't have to pay child support. So much of this screams troll.

[Baconqueen13]

All four kids are biologically hers according to the 1st paragraph. So which kids did she adopt? Man trolls who can' keep their story straight in their first post really suck.

You missed the bit about guy wanting to adopt older kids. So All 4 kids are hers and her spouse adopted the older two before he up and disappeared so she no longer gets child support form the father/s of the 2 older children. The timeline is all screwed up though. We know she filed a missing person's report but have been given no indication of how long it was until they found him or how long it's been since.
Honestly it sounds a bit rushed and unless he was the only one with access to the accounts there is no reason she shouldn't be able to cover some of the expenses until the legal system steps in despite how slowly they work.

Yeah, I get that. But courts generally don't let steps adopt kids if there is an active father and I would think that the courts would include paying child support as being active. Of course, it's all too convenient for this drama for the kid's dad to roll over and allow his ex's new husband to adopt his kids so he doesn't have to pay child support. So much of this screams troll.

Well yeah, that's why the OP got a gold star for her effort.

[Anonymous 4]

I’m the type of friend who would say it is time to hire a private investigator to find out who this dude really is and where he is hiding.

[Pjmm]

I can't stand people with that whole "told you so" mentality.
Get the f**k over yourself, friend!

Me either. There have been married couples that married quickly and live happily. I wouldn't do it myself but not every man who marries quickly is a user. Hindsight is 20/20.

[Anonymous 2]

I can't stand people with that whole "told you so" mentality.
Get the f**k over yourself, friend!

Me either. There have been married couples that married quickly and live happily. I wouldn't do it myself but not every man who marries quickly is a user. Hindsight is 20/20.

For real!
What kind of friend sits around and gloats about how right she was when her friend is going through such a rough time? A shitty one.

[Momto2boys973]

“They can’t tell her where he is”? Who’s “they” and why can’t they? She has a right to know.