Do we have to feed him?

[Anonymous 6]

https://momconfessions.net/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=10295

Here is what I responded to you on the first page....SIl lives 2 hours away. My nephew's dad (my brother) lives near my SIL. So my nephew lives near us so we are giving him a ride, but my brother has to work so he will pick him up from SIL at a later time. This seemed to bother SIL with her question "do we have to feed him?" so not really sure we even want to go to their house again, but like i said, i was going to do it so i can give my nephew a ride to see his dad.

Also, he is 16 and doesn't have his license yet. And my brother lives about 10-15 minutes from SIL. He will pick him up at SIL's after he gets off of work..he works in the food business and they are not closed for Thanksgiving.

Sorry if these questions have already been asked and answered.
How old is your nephew?
How far does your brother live from your SIL's house?
You mentioned that you were bringing your nephew along as a favor to your brother so your brother can see his son. Is there a reason that you aren't just taking your nephew to his dad's house?

[madfoodie]

I don’t understand this notion of excluding people from holidays unless the person is like a criminal or sociopath. My ex-stepfather always comes to my house for Christmas, and he’s brought his best friend from high school with him before .

We are going to see my grandmother for Thanksgiving, and she’s inviting everyone at her retirement home that’s alone for the holiday to join us.

This is the same with me. My ex step father is coming and I consider him my dad.
I even invited people who live in elderly housing that I don't know so they'd have somewhere to eat.

[Valentina327]

SIl lives 2 hours away. My nephew's dad (my brother) lives near my SIL. So my nephew lives near us so we are giving him a ride, but my brother has to work so he will pick him up from SIL at a later time. This seemed to bother SIL with her question "do we have to feed him?" so not really sure we even want to go to their house again, but like i said, i was going to do it so i can give my nephew a ride to see his dad.

If she was my SIL and she had given me a hard time about including the nephew at one gathering, I wouldn't even ask if I could bring him to another.

If your nephew is a minor that you have custody of and she won't allow his presence, I wouldn't attend. If he isn't a minor and you don't have custody of him and there's nothing wrong with his parents, I'd consider having him celebrate Thanksgiving with his parents.

So he is supposed to sit and watch everyone eat? What is wrong with this woman? I don't know that I'd want to be spending my holidays with someone like that.

[Anonymous 1]

I think SIL saying that was her passive aggressive way to let me know that she doesn't want to be told that we have our nephew with us....she wants to be asked if it's okay. I could have said "is that okay?" at the end of my sentence that he would be coming with us. But after she asked if we need to feed him, I said we will bring our leftovers and we did.

SIl lives 2 hours away. My nephew's dad (my brother) lives near my SIL. So my nephew lives near us so we are giving him a ride, but my brother has to work so he will pick him up from SIL at a later time. This seemed to bother SIL with her question "do we have to feed him?" so not really sure we even want to go to their house again, but like i said, i was going to do it so i can give my nephew a ride to see his dad.

If she was my SIL and she had given me a hard time about including the nephew at one gathering, I wouldn't even ask if I could bring him to another.

If your nephew is a minor that you have custody of and she won't allow his presence, I wouldn't attend. If he isn't a minor and you don't have custody of him and there's nothing wrong with his parents, I'd consider having him celebrate Thanksgiving with his parents.

So he is supposed to sit and watch everyone eat? What is wrong with this woman? I don't know that I'd want to be spending my holidays with someone like that.

[That'swhatshesaid]

I think SIL saying that was her passive aggressive way to let me know that she doesn't want to be told that we have our nephew with us....she wants to be asked if it's okay. I could have said "is that okay?" at the end of my sentence that he would be coming with us. But after she asked if we need to feed him, I said we will bring our leftovers and we did.

SIl lives 2 hours away. My nephew's dad (my brother) lives near my SIL. So my nephew lives near us so we are giving him a ride, but my brother has to work so he will pick him up from SIL at a later time. This seemed to bother SIL with her question "do we have to feed him?" so not really sure we even want to go to their house again, but like i said, i was going to do it so i can give my nephew a ride to see his dad.

So he is supposed to sit and watch everyone eat? What is wrong with this woman? I don't know that I'd want to be spending my holidays with someone like that.

Honestly, with her attitude, I would have serious doubts about going there for dinner. She sounds like a control freak.

[Anonymous 1]

Yeah the older my kids get and the more drama SIL creates, I just don't really want to do this much longer. My kids can contact their cousins and see them when they get older if they want. I have put up with her BS all of these years for the kids.

I think SIL saying that was her passive aggressive way to let me know that she doesn't want to be told that we have our nephew with us....she wants to be asked if it's okay. I could have said "is that okay?" at the end of my sentence that he would be coming with us. But after she asked if we need to feed him, I said we will bring our leftovers and we did.

So he is supposed to sit and watch everyone eat? What is wrong with this woman? I don't know that I'd want to be spending my holidays with someone like that.

Honestly, with her attitude, I would have serious doubts about going there for dinner. She sounds like a control freak.

[Valentina327]

I think SIL saying that was her passive aggressive way to let me know that she doesn't want to be told that we have our nephew with us....she wants to be asked if it's okay. I could have said "is that okay?" at the end of my sentence that he would be coming with us. But after she asked if we need to feed him, I said we will bring our leftovers and we did.

SIl lives 2 hours away. My nephew's dad (my brother) lives near my SIL. So my nephew lives near us so we are giving him a ride, but my brother has to work so he will pick him up from SIL at a later time. This seemed to bother SIL with her question "do we have to feed him?" so not really sure we even want to go to their house again, but like i said, i was going to do it so i can give my nephew a ride to see his dad.

So he is supposed to sit and watch everyone eat? What is wrong with this woman? I don't know that I'd want to be spending my holidays with someone like that.

LMAO
Iconic response, as my G-d daughter would say!

[Anonymous 7]

You're showing up with an extra person she's not related to - a teenage boy - and didn't even ask. I wouldn't like that either.

[Anonymous 1]

Why would that bother you?

You're showing up with an extra person she's not related to - a teenage boy - and didn't even ask. I wouldn't like that either.

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I probably wouldn't bother going.