Do we have to feed him?

[Anonymous 1]

Since we have to give my nephew a ride to see his dad and drive the 2 hours, that's why we are still going to SIL's house. I wish we weren't though.

I probably wouldn't bother going.

[Anonymous 7]

Why would that bother you?

You're showing up with an extra person she's not related to - a teenage boy - and didn't even ask. I wouldn't like that either.

Because you don't just invite people to someone else's house for Thanksgiving. You just don't. You ask.

[Anonymous 2]

I go to my cousin's every year for Thanksgiving. I would never tell her that I'm bringing someone unknown to her. If I absolutely had to bring someone with me, I'd ask, not tell. You telling her instead asking her may have been what caused her to be snotty with you.

Why would that bother you?

You're showing up with an extra person she's not related to - a teenage boy - and didn't even ask. I wouldn't like that either.

[Olioxenfree]

Since we have to give my nephew a ride to see his dad and drive the 2 hours, that's why we are still going to SIL's house. I wish we weren't though.

I probably wouldn't bother going.

You don't have to give him a ride and you don't have to go to SIL's, both of those are choices, so you should have asked if it was okay and made decisions accordingly.

[Anonymous 1]

I truly didn't think it would be an issue but now I know that it was. It would never be an issue for me if SIL brought her nephew and I would never have acted rude about it like she did.

Since we have to give my nephew a ride to see his dad and drive the 2 hours, that's why we are still going to SIL's house. I wish we weren't though.

I probably wouldn't bother going.

You don't have to give him a ride and you don't have to go to SIL's, both of those are choices, so you should have asked if it was okay and made decisions accordingly.

[Anonymous 1]

I never knew it would be an issue but now I know that it was. Since I would not have an issue with a family member bringing their kid niece or nephew with them because of needing to give them a ride or because they didn't have anywhere else to go, etc, I didn't think she would be snotty about it. But obviously I was wrong about that. The only thing I could have done differently is put at the end of my sentence "is that okay?" I think she still would have been snotty about it.

I go to my cousin's every year for Thanksgiving. I would never tell her that I'm bringing someone unknown to her. If I absolutely had to bring someone with me, I'd ask, not tell. You telling her instead asking her may have been what caused her to be snotty with you.

Why would that bother you?

You're showing up with an extra person she's not related to - a teenage boy - and didn't even ask. I wouldn't like that either.

[Anonymous 2]

You'll never know how she may have reacted if you had asked instead of told. But that's already in the past.

You should just plan to make your own Thanksgiving dinner at your home. Then, if you'd like, take a road trip for your nephew to see his father. There's really no reason for you to even stop at SIL's house.

I never knew it would be an issue but now I know that it was. Since I would not have an issue with a family member bringing their kid niece or nephew with them because of needing to give them a ride or because they didn't have anywhere else to go, etc, I didn't think she would be snotty about it. But obviously I was wrong about that. The only thing I could have done differently is put at the end of my sentence "is that okay?" I think she still would have been snotty about it.

I go to my cousin's every year for Thanksgiving. I would never tell her that I'm bringing someone unknown to her. If I absolutely had to bring someone with me, I'd ask, not tell. You telling her instead asking her may have been what caused her to be snotty with you.

Why would that bother you?

[Anonymous 1]

The reason to stop at SIL's is because we were invited and my kids want to see their cousins. If it was solely my choice, yes, I would stay home. But since we have to give my nephew another ride to see his dad, I will do it again.

You'll never know how she may have reacted if you had asked instead of told. But that's already in the past.

You should just plan to make your own Thanksgiving dinner at your home. Then, if you'd like, take a road trip for your nephew to see his father. There's really no reason for you to even stop at SIL's house.

I never knew it would be an issue but now I know that it was. Since I would not have an issue with a family member bringing their kid niece or nephew with them because of needing to give them a ride or because they didn't have anywhere else to go, etc, I didn't think she would be snotty about it. But obviously I was wrong about that. The only thing I could have done differently is put at the end of my sentence "is that okay?" I think she still would have been snotty about it.

I go to my cousin's every year for Thanksgiving. I would never tell her that I'm bringing someone unknown to her. If I absolutely had to bring someone with me, I'd ask, not tell. You telling her instead asking her may have been what caused her to be snotty with you.

[Anonymous 2]

I'm sure it will all work out and you'll all have a nice Thanksgiving. Enjoy!

The reason to stop at SIL's is because we were invited and my kids want to see their cousins. If it was solely my choice, yes, I would stay home. But since we have to give my nephew another ride to see his dad, I will do it again.

You'll never know how she may have reacted if you had asked instead of told. But that's already in the past.

You should just plan to make your own Thanksgiving dinner at your home. Then, if you'd like, take a road trip for your nephew to see his father. There's really no reason for you to even stop at SIL's house.

I never knew it would be an issue but now I know that it was. Since I would not have an issue with a family member bringing their kid niece or nephew with them because of needing to give them a ride or because they didn't have anywhere else to go, etc, I didn't think she would be snotty about it. But obviously I was wrong about that. The only thing I could have done differently is put at the end of my sentence "is that okay?" I think she still would have been snotty about it.