DD has decided to go for her bachelors degree instead of getting a job

[Anonymous 1]

My DD graduated from nursing school in May. She took the NCLEX and became a registered nurse. She was applying for jobs and her goal was to work for a few months and then start an RN to BSN program which would allow her to get a raise and a better position. The program is set up for working nurses and is part time.

I asked her how interviewing for jobs was going. She told me that she decided that she isnt going to work right now. She is just going to go for her bachelors degree which will take 2 more years. I am honestly not okay with this. We have been paying for her to go to school and to live. She has a little bit of money from savings/a small scholarship she got but DH and I have been supporting her the last 2.5 years since she started nursing school. I have had no problem with that because she really wanted this and her plan was good.

I am not okay with having to pay for another 2 years while she does nothing. The whole plan was for her to work. I dont mind supporting her a little longer until she finds the job if she is at least actively looking. The school she got her associates degree in is the best school in the area. Everyone around here wants to hire people from her school. She could easily find a job.

I dont like how she decided this without even talking to me. I dont like how she just assumed it would be okay to live off of your parents for 2 more years without a simple conversation

I told her that she needs to stick to the plan or come up with her own way to pay for school. She feels like I am being harsh because that means she has to drop out from that program that she is supposed to start next week. (Full time BSN program)

I thought she had more sense than this. If she had talked to me she would have known I wouldnt be okay with that.

ETA: We dont mind paying for the degree if she is working to support herself. This also isnt her first degree

[Maggie]

I don’t know about your state but my license becomes inactive if I don’t use it. She may want to atleast work part time. Even if it’s PRN work.

[Inmybizz]

If the deal was you would pay up until a certain point, you did your part. If she changes the terms without talking to you first, then she should pay her way through school. She can do it. Plenty of people have worked and gone to school at the same time.

[KaiandKadensMama]

So tell her you’re not paying unless she works. TONS of people work while going for their degree.

[WickedPissah]

Tell her you're not supporting her my longer. If she wants her BSN, she will have to fund it herself.

Some jobs reimburse too.

[Anonymous 3]

Do you not need a four year degree to be a nurse where you are?

Tell her you're going to start charging her rent.

[Maggie]

Do you not need a four year degree to be a nurse where you are?

Tell her you're going to start charging her rent.

Here in the states you can have an ADN (2 yrs) to work as an RN, butttttt hospitals are now requiring a BSN (4 yr).

[Anonymous 2]

My DD graduated from nursing school in May. She took the NCLEX and became a registered nurse. She was applying for jobs and her goal was to work for a few months and then start an RN to BSN program which would allow her to get a raise and a better position. The program is set up for working nurses and is part time.

I asked her how interviewing for jobs was going. She told me that she decided that she isnt going to work right now. She is just going to go for her bachelors degree which will take 2 more years. I am honestly not okay with this. We have been paying for her to go to school and to live. She has a little bit of money from savings/a small scholarship she got but DH and I have been supporting her the last 2.5 years since she started nursing school. I have had no problem with that because she really wanted this and her plan was good.

I am not okay with having to pay for another 2 years while she does nothing. The whole plan was for her to work. I dont mind supporting her a little longer until she finds the job if she is at least actively looking. The school she got her associates degree in is the best school in the area. Everyone around here wants to hire people from her school. She could easily find a job.

I dont like how she decided this without even talking to me. I dont like how she just assumed it would be okay to live off of your parents for 2 more years without a simple conversation

I told her that she needs to stick to the plan or come up with her own way to pay for school. She feels like I am being harsh because that means she has to drop out from that program that she is supposed to start next week. (Full time BSN program)

I thought she had more sense than this. If she had talked to me she would have known I wouldnt be okay with that.

It's your prerogative not to pay anymore college tuition and living expenses. In our family we pay for the entire college bill if they agree to at least go for a masters degree. We dont want them saddled with a boatload of debt when starting their career and life.

[Anonymous 4]

I'd pay for it if she was going for her 4 year degree. I do realize not everyone shares my family's view of parental obligation.

[Anonymous 5]

I love how everyone claims education is so important but when it comes to paying for it, it’s a different story. You need a BSN to get a high paying job. Even better is Nurse Practitioner. How people don’t want to educate their children is puzzling to me.