I am not helping pay for my step kids go to college and it is starting a lot of drama
In our family the grandparents set up the college funds. The parents can contribute if they want to.
Tell BM that that if she expects you to contribute for her kids college, then you expect her to contribute for your kids college.
Fair is fair
Tell BM that that if she expects you to contribute for her kids college, then you expect her to contribute for your kids college.
Fair is fair