Please respond anon, very sensitive topic

[agander2017]

My baby died in utero at 14 weeks. I had to have a d&c done because he wouldn't come out. I was and still am devastated.
To call what I had to do an abortion is a slap in the face.

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't consider that an abortion. That's a horrible thing to call it.

[Anonymous 7]

You’re absolutely, positively incorrect.

Nope. I never have, and never will. Though I do know people that have. I don't judge. It's just not for me.

So if you had a tubal pregnancy you would just die instead of aborting?

I don't consider that an abortion, so to speak. That's a medical life saving surgery that needs to be done. An abortion is something you get when you don't want the baby. There's a difference between having the baby surgically removed for a medical reason, and killing it just because you couldn't prevent a pregnancy. One is necessary, one is not.

[Anonymous 22]

Nope. I never have, and never will. Though I do know people that have. I don't judge. It's just not for me.

So if you had a tubal pregnancy you would just die instead of aborting?

I don't consider that an abortion, so to speak. That's a medical life saving surgery that needs to be done. An abortion is something you get when you don't want the baby. There's a difference between having the baby surgically removed for a medical reason, and killing it just because you couldn't prevent a pregnancy. One is necessary, one is not.

You can consider it what you want, it's still called an abortion

[Nachobizness]

no I never have. I am all for people having the right to choose though.

[mater-three]

Nope. I never have, and never will. Though I do know people that have. I don't judge. It's just not for me.

So if you had a tubal pregnancy you would just die instead of aborting?

I don't consider that an abortion, so to speak. That's a medical life saving surgery that needs to be done. An abortion is something you get when you don't want the baby. There's a difference between having the baby surgically removed for a medical reason, and killing it just because you couldn't prevent a pregnancy. One is necessary, one is not.

Anon’s point is that they are the same procedure. The emotional aspect that people try to put on it does not change that fact.

I think the problem here is mostly people’s emotional reactions to the word abortion. Setting all personal perceptions about what abortion is, it is simply a medical procedure. It’s difficult to remove oneself like that. And, anon knows this and uses that knowledge to turn people’s statements around on them.

It takes talent to remove the personal from the logical. It’s a skill that a lot of people (myself included) should probably work on when responding here.

[Anonymous 23]

Uh, no, and never would.

That said, I haven't been pregnant, either.

[Smarties]

It's really sad to me how people have picked others apart in this post about how the removal of their ectopic pregnancy was an abortion. I really doubt these ladies didnt understand what was happening to them so I see no need to pound it in their faces that they had abortions.

[Anonymous 24]

no. never. Dr tried to bully me into one. His reasoning wasn't right. The baby was viable. I was right. He was wrong. He was wrong on so many things.

[Anonymous 12]

It's really sad to me how people have picked others apart in this post about how the removal of their ectopic pregnancy was an abortion. I really doubt these ladies didnt understand what was happening to them so I see no need to pound it in their faces that they had abortions.

Stating facts is not picking anyone apart. It is clear many here do not understand what an abortion is

[Smarties]

It's really sad to me how people have picked others apart in this post about how the removal of their ectopic pregnancy was an abortion. I really doubt these ladies didnt understand what was happening to them so I see no need to pound it in their faces that they had abortions.

Stating facts is not picking anyone apart. It is clear many here do not understand what an abortion is

No, that's not "clear" at all. I had a miscarriage. I *know* that's technically an abortion and I dont need anyone to "educate" me on that in a multiple page effort to prove themselves right. But when people ask me if I've ever had an abortion I understand that in general conversation they dont mean miscarriage and I tell them no.

People who've had ectopic pregnancies are surely very aware that they've ended those pregnancies.