If you have a kid with ODD

[Anonymous 2]

Thank you. When he was little I was told to get myself counseling because even if I was the model parent who did everything perfectly he would still be difficult to raise. They saw a couple of defiant episodes and said it looked like odd but that I was handling it correctly. He does have co-existing disorders but hes too smart and we were denied services.
Hes home from boy scout camp this weekend because of his attitude Thursday. He 100% says he should be punished for it and kept home but hes upset about not going.
He says fits have never once worked on me but maybe someday one will.
We are extremely consistent with him. We always have been because with my background in early childhood education I've seen what happens when you aren't.
I just want to make things better. I'll do anything to fix it. We have done both positive and negative consequences. I'll make sure he gets one on one time with both of us. I'm a huge fan of natural consequences. It just doesn't click with him.
And this whole thread just made me feel worse. I kind of skimmed it because I just couldn't handle all of the judgments about my parenting by a bunch of people who don't even know me.
People suck. I'm going to go hide in a hole now. But I cant do that because that would mean giving up on my son and I will NEVER do that.

No one here was commenting on or judging your parenting (as far as I can tell), so no need to take it that way. We had our own conversation that wasnt about you at all. Good luck.

When I suspect odd in my kid and it has been mentioned by a specialist in the past then people go off on how its "shitty parenting " its 100% judging my parenting.

It wasn't from me. My comments had nothing to do with you in particular. So no, don't put words in my mouth. I will judge you if you do that.

[Anonymous 1]

No one here was commenting on or judging your parenting (as far as I can tell), so no need to take it that way. We had our own conversation that wasnt about you at all. Good luck.

When I suspect odd in my kid and it has been mentioned by a specialist in the past then people go off on how its "shitty parenting " its 100% judging my parenting.

It wasn't from me. My comments had nothing to do with you in particular. So no, don't put words in my mouth. I will judge you if you do that.

I didn't say who it was. You said no one was judging my parenting but some in this thread were.

[Anonymous 2]

When I suspect odd in my kid and it has been mentioned by a specialist in the past then people go off on how its "shitty parenting " its 100% judging my parenting.

It wasn't from me. My comments had nothing to do with you in particular. So no, don't put words in my mouth. I will judge you if you do that.

I didn't say who it was. You said no one was judging my parenting but some in this thread were.

I shouldn't speak for everyone else, but that's wasn't really my perception. Try not to take the discussion as directed at you.

[Anonymous 1]

It wasn't from me. My comments had nothing to do with you in particular. So no, don't put words in my mouth. I will judge you if you do that.

I didn't say who it was. You said no one was judging my parenting but some in this thread were.

I shouldn't speak for everyone else, but that's wasn't really my perception. Try not to take the discussion as directed at you.

Umm it was my post! Typically people reply to the OP directing at least initial comments towards them.

[Anonymous 2]

I didn't say who it was. You said no one was judging my parenting but some in this thread were.

I shouldn't speak for everyone else, but that's wasn't really my perception. Try not to take the discussion as directed at you.

Umm it was my post! Typically people reply to the OP directing at least initial comments towards them.

I haven't found that to be true. People see the topic of the post and take it in whatever direction they want to, especially in this case since your post sat for so long before people started replying - didn't seem to have much to say to you specifically. No one talked about your child at all, asked questions for details about your child.... For the most part this discussion wasnt about you. (I can't say that 100 percent and I dont want to speak for everyone else, but that's how I took it). But that's just my observations. The bottom line is you shouldn't take this so personally.

[AllofFive19]

Can you tell me who diagnosed them, how they were diagnosed, what the treatment is, and if it helps? Also what were they doing that led to a diagnosis?

My AS had ODD, he was diagnosed with that and multiple other disorders after speaking to a neuropsychologist. He was not my son at the time, so I had to follow the medication schedule that made things worse. There were multiple behavior issues that lead to that diagnosis, I felt a lot of his problems stemmed from his relationship with his birth mother. I also felt he had RAD. He had all the symptoms.

[Anonymous 6]

SD was dxed ODD and it's 100% because she has no consistency in discipline. BM refuses to work with DH on what consequence should be given for what. She also doesn't discipline for every infraction like we do. Say SD whacks her brother for no reason. Oh that's kids being kids whereas here she'd be punished. So yes IMO 99% of cases are shitty parenting.

[Yogamom55]

I don't believe in it.

[Anonymous 7]

My son was diagnosed with adhd and ODD at age 6. Later as he became a teen it was changed to adhd and Dmdd.. he's been in behavioral therapy and anger management since age 6. He is now 16. He still has his moments but with meds and therapy he is going good for the most part. He takes meds for adhd, meds for depression and meds for his anger.. he isn't in public school he is homeschooled now, which helps alot.

[Shell7m]

My oldest has this mixed in with his autism. He does behavioral therapy and social cues/situations lessons.