Regardless whether she had good role models or not, only someone that lived in a cave with no human interaction could possibly be excused using that excuse.
I feel bad for your dd, NO child should ever have to feel "indifferent" in regards to a grandparent.or parent for that matter.
Im old and I've never heard of "the belief that daughter’s never leave you but sons do". Even if I had, I would.never allow that mindset to exist in our family.
One day when grandmother needs help, the grandkids she favored may turn their back on her and she is going to regret treating your dd differently.
Anonymous 6 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 24, 2019 9:21 pmIt is not necessarily done with malice. My MIL just didn’t have good role models with either her mother or her MIL. Has always favored the children of her daughters more than the sons. I got the sense it comes from the belief that daughter’s never leave you but sons do. I used to be frustrated by it. She has not been to visit us since 2007 although we are only a 4 hour car ride away or an easy train trip. Yet she has been to visit my SIL and her kids in Europe at least 1x/year.Sassy762 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 24, 2019 9:11 pm Favoring one child or grandchild over another is a total BITCH move. I've never pulled that crap with my kids or grandkids and never will. I also would never subject my children to a nasty bitch like that, she would be dead to us after the very first time I witnessed that .Anonymous 6 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 24, 2019 7:10 pm We had a similar situation this past June. All 3 granddaughters were graduating in the same week in different locations. My MIL attended only one - her favorite grandchild. It’s never discussed but we all know this one is the favorite.
My opinion was that if you can’t go to all, go to none. Although she has a favorite, must she be so blatant about it. Luckily my DD could care less as she has known this for a while. Grandma did send her a check for $500 though.
Since she has retired, she has made more of an effort but my DD is indifferent at this point. She’ll talk to her or email but doesn’t initiate. The sad thing is that both my parents are dead as is my FIL. So my MIL is it.