How would you handle this

[WickedPissah]

Give the one that you miss a bigger gift. $$$.

It would still cause problems

Stay home and prepare a party for them.

[mater-three]

Go to neither. Send enormous gifts.

Which is probably what I'd do regardless because graduation ceremonies are boring as f**k and if you're not getting roasted, you're getting rained on.

Ill.send them 25 bucks just like I do with all the kids

that is ridiculous. You should be giving more than that unless you are just not well off.

Do you teach your children you love and are proud of them on the basis of the amount of money you spend on them? That’s kind of sad.

[RedBottoms]

Ill.send them 25 bucks just like I do with all the kids

that is ridiculous. You should be giving more than that unless you are just not well off.

Do you teach your children you love and are proud of them on the basis of the amount of money you spend on them? That’s kind of sad.

No I live in 2019 and I know what things cost. So $25 does not even buy a nice dinner out so that is a ridiculously low gift

and the fact that Mojo girl said the same thing in an even more harsh way than I-but you ignored her-shows you are just biased and prejudiced towards me. Very transparent

[Pjmm]

I just asked my husband and he said the one I liked best. Geez that’s awful. I say the one I am not closest to, as the one I am closest too already knows I care.

Lol I was going to say the one that has annoyed me the least throughout his or hers childhood lol. Seriously if Grandpa is around send him to one you attend the other. Otherwise stream one or both and say 'I insist on giving up my ticket so blah blah can attend'. My family did some of that because I had limited tickets. You'll look good.

[mater-three]

that is ridiculous. You should be giving more than that unless you are just not well off.

Do you teach your children you love and are proud of them on the basis of the amount of money you spend on them? That’s kind of sad.

No I live in 2019 and I know what things cost. So $25 does not even buy a nice dinner out so that is a ridiculously low gift

and the fact that Mojo girl said the same thing in an even more harsh way than I-but you ignored her-shows you are just biased and prejudiced towards me. Very transparent

I did not see her reply. Contrary to your opinion, I do not have an agenda against you.

Gifts are voluntary. Any amount should be appreciated.

[mater-three]

Go to neither. Send enormous gifts.

Which is probably what I'd do regardless because graduation ceremonies are boring as f**k and if you're not getting roasted, you're getting rained on.

Ill.send them 25 bucks just like I do with all the kids

25 bucks?! Wow, you're cheap!

And, you sound ungrateful.

[Anonymous 1]

Give the one that you miss a bigger gift. $$$.

It would still cause problems

Stay home and prepare a party for them.

They are already having separate parties at the same time 3 weeks after the ceremonies. I wont be able to attend them because of work

[Shaken1976]

Do they live close to you?

[Hot4Tchr-Bieg]

Go to neither. Send enormous gifts.

Which is probably what I'd do regardless because graduation ceremonies are boring as f**k and if you're not getting roasted, you're getting rained on.

Really? My high school had graduations in a big "arena" type venue area where they held big concerts and shows. No roasting, no getting rained on, and everyone had "unlimited" tickets.

Granted, I didn't bother to go to mine, but yeah.

Really. Here on Long Island, high schoolers graduate end of June. And I'm in a town very close to the city...schools are pretty crowded with no room to grow.
They always set up for outdoor graduations because if they have to move it indoors, they only admit 4 guests per graduate (to go be absolutely SQUISHED in a hot and humid auditorium/cafetorium.) One of the schools in our district has been able to move their graduations to a college auditorium, but not all.

[WickedPissah]

It would still cause problems

Stay home and prepare a party for them.

They are already having separate parties at the same time 3 weeks after the ceremonies. I wont be able to attend them because of work

Ok well you have a problem or conflict with all the other suggestions. Gl