It's low- unless you have several grandkids graduating. Like say there's two hs and an eighth grade. It's happened. Then it adds up for folks on a fixed income. I saw in my sons counselors office a list of Christmas rules and one was don't overspend to show people how much you love them. That should apply for graduation. If a kid is raised right he should understand 25 dollars may be a lot to someone on social security. I've explained this sort of thing to mine before.RedBottoms wrote: ↑Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:45 amI was not intending to bash-I just though that seemed like a very low amount. As I said I give that much to my kids 11 year old friends for birthdays every year.bluebunnybabe wrote: ↑Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:41 amIt doesn’t matter what her financial means are. A gift is a gift. We will likely do $50 for high school, and $100 for college. I promise you, my grandkids will appreciate the gift, and send a thank you card, because that’s how they are raised.RedBottoms wrote: ↑Mon Mar 25, 2019 10:36 am
well yes I agree on that that saving for retirement is the utmost importance. I asked her what her financial means were and she said they were fine so I would give at least $100 as they only graduate from high school once. $25 does not even buy a nice meal or a movie in 2019.
That you would do more, doesn’t make you better, or give you a reason to bash others.
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I'd be willing to bet that most kids would appreciate any amount. From what I've seen, it's usually the parents that are the biggest complainers.
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I'd talk to the kids and see what they wanted. Maybe work it out that mom and Dad go to one and I go to the other. Or whatever the kids wanted. maybe have them battle to the death to see which one gets us there. Then there wouldn't be a choice to make and the survivor has more money for post secondary.
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This and blame your children for not being kind enough to get with each other to ensure the grandkids would be spaced appropriately to avoid such things.PoplarGrove wrote: ↑Tue Mar 26, 2019 3:17 pm I'd talk to the kids and see what they wanted. Maybe work it out that mom and Dad go to one and I go to the other. Or whatever the kids wanted. maybe have them battle to the death to see which one gets us there. Then there wouldn't be a choice to make and the survivor has more money for post secondary.
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I would skip both and just take them both out for a special brunch/dinner.