Why do you HATE Thanksgiving?

[Verrine]

Yes, I know this makes me look like a super bitch.

Everyone's supposed to meet up and by happy, happy, happy. My mom and sister insist that I host. I've suggested going to a restaurant and that's not good enough. The one time I got out of hosting was after I had surgery.

With DH's family, I finally got out of having to spend the time with SD's mom. SD is 34. I tried really hard to be understanding for 20 years.

I need to know what DH's family is planning so that I can work my family's schedule into it. Last night DH said he didn't want to tell me. Yippee.

I just want to make a gingerbread house.

[QuantumNursing]

f**k that shit and stay home. Tell your mom and sister they can host and I dont wknow what kind of game your husband is playing but I would tell him f**k no also

[Deleted User 638]

f**k that shit and stay home. Tell your mom and sister they can host and I dont wknow what kind of game your husband is playing but I would tell him f**k no also

[leadfoot40]

f**k that shit and stay home. Tell your mom and sister they can host and I dont wknow what kind of game your husband is playing but I would tell him f**k no also

[Gorilla_Mama]

f**k that shit and stay home. Tell your mom and sister they can host and I dont wknow what kind of game your husband is playing but I would tell him f**k no also

This. Except I think on thanksgiving you should take yourself out to a restaurant, have a drink or two.

[MonarchMom]

No reason to host - or cook - if you don't want to. Either get a pre-cooked dinner at the local market or restaurant, or do a pot luck. Make it easy and only do the things you will enjoy. Life is too short to spend your energy doing what everyone else wants and not your own choices.

As far as visiting, if you spouse wants to see extended family then take two cars. Arrive later and leave earlier. Other people can only control your day if you allow them.

[MrsDavidB]

Are you saying for the past 20 years you have had to spend holidays with your husband's ex wife?

[CotterpinDoozer]

Tell everyone no. That is a complete sentence. No, you will not be hosting. No, you won't entertain your husband's nonsense or his families nonsense. If you don't want to celebrate, don't. If they get mad, let them be mad. If you're tired of being taken advantage of, stop letting them. If anyone tries to show up anyway don't open the door. Leave for the whole day if you want.

[famousglm714]

I'd hate it if I had to host too. I'd refuse. Any event I have is held somewhere I don't have to cook or clean up, lol. I don't hate it because all I have to do is show up and be fat.

[EarlGrayHot]

I don't. I was always a fun time but I know it can be very stressful when crazy folk play head and power games. If I were you I'd say you are NOT hosting and don't answer the door if anyone has the gall to show up. Relax and order out for your family only.