I do like that compromise but in most place a person has to have lived as their chosen gender for at least a year and jump through a lot of hoops to have their gender marker switched on their birth certificate.WellPreserved wrote: ↑Fri Apr 12, 2024 11:40 amThat's why I'm glad that my state allows one to change their gender on their birth certificate or license if they meet certain criteria. Checking id when joining a gym would be the easiest way to determine one's gender and which locker room they were permitted to use. In the story, the guy booked online as a male. That should have automatically prevented him from entering the women's locker room.SouthernIslander wrote: ↑Fri Apr 12, 2024 11:08 amYes, he was arrested…after the damage to the women in that locker room was already done. So preventative action is also important because the law isn't going to pay for a rape victim’s therapy bill if the offense triggers them.WellPreserved wrote: ↑Fri Apr 12, 2024 10:45 am
Men have been coming into women's spaces to cause harm well before the transgender bathroom issue. IMO, until individual bathrooms and changing stalls are standard, the unisex or family individual bathroom that most establishments including gyms provide is a good compromise.
Transgender women are not the issue, predatory men are.
It just feels with these threads that we're beating a dead horse. Half the women in this group believe that transgender women are women and half don't and I just feel that these threads aren't going to change minds.
There are a lot of women in my life that I love deeply and want to see safe and protected and respected. Some of these women were born with male genitalia and obviously I want them included and respected when talking about how to keep women safe.
And is it so easy for a man to say he identifies as a woman to enter female spaces? This guy was arrested, as he should have been. Honestly, if a naked woman came up to my daughter in the locker room and asked to shower with her and rub lotion on her, arrest would be going easy on her, lol.
Honestly, I wish we'd go back to bathroom and locker room attendants like what was standard when I was growing up!
I have shared spaces with gay men and transwomen my whole life and always will, but it should not be that easy for a straight man to prey on and traumatize women in spaces that should be safe.
So i understand what you're saying, but I see both sides and the need to compromise.
I know that this wouldn't work in states that don't allow someone to change their gender on their ID.
I think it would be rare for a predatory male to go through the legal process of changing one's id just to enter a women's space. We are talking about 1% of the population. I think there is a way to both protect women from predatory men and protect transgender women we just need the will.
We should be fighting for a different type of change room and washroom set up across the board and then it doesn't matter what genitals you have in your pants