I must be ugly

[Olioxenfree]

But don't we all do that basically? When first meeting someone, the only thing we do have to make a judgement on is their physical attractiveness. Then as we get to know them we gain other stuff to judge them on. But when meeting someone to be a potential mate, physical attractiveness is important. Because if their face is a bit of a turn-off across the table over coffee, it's not going to get any better when it's on the pillow next to you.

Plenty of people care about personality over looks. Otherwise only attractive people would ever have kids. I find my husband attractive, but that isn't why I married him. I dated guys just as physically attractive in the past and some who weren't great looking, but were nice guys. In my opinion being emotionally attracted to someone is more important than being physically attracted to them.

What about waiting until they find someone whom they find physically, intellectually and emotionally attractive?
Why settle?

That's up to them. I'm just agreeing with the other poster that judging someone by appearance alone is the definition of shallow.

[Anonymous 2]

I don't think it's unusual or shallow to want to date someone that you are attracted to.

I have also found that some guys, who I wasn't necessarily attracted to, became "more attractive" to me after I've gotten to know them.

Quite possibly. But hey, just find one as shallow as you are and you’ll be a great uggo couple!

It’s not shallow why be with someone I’m not physically attracted to?

[Bubbs]

Plenty of people care about personality over looks. Otherwise only attractive people would ever have kids. I find my husband attractive, but that isn't why I married him. I dated guys just as physically attractive in the past and some who weren't great looking, but were nice guys. In my opinion being emotionally attracted to someone is more important than being physically attracted to them.

What about waiting until they find someone whom they find physically, intellectually and emotionally attractive?
Why settle?

That's up to them. I'm just agreeing with the other poster that judging someone by appearance alone is the definition of shallow.

Since looks are the first impression, I wouldn’t expect someone who doesn’t find me attractive to try to get to know me on the hopes I’m a million other deeper things. I don’t think it’s shallow.
Why would I want someone who just thinks I’m okay to look at?

[Deleted User 172]

Attraction is complicated.
An unattractive person can become the most beautiful (physically) person you've ever met in your life. Once you get to know them you start seeing attractive qualities in their face, body, etc.

Just because someone is "ugly" at first doesn't mean they won't become beautiful to you later.

[Anonymous 9]

Attraction is complicated.
An unattractive person can become the most beautiful (physically) person you've ever met in your life. Once you get to know them you start seeing attractive qualities in their face, body, etc.

Just because someone is "ugly" at first doesn't mean they won't become beautiful to you later.

Meh, an ok looking guy can certainly become a lot better looking, but if you truly think a dude looks like a rhino’s ass I don’t think perusing a romantic relationship with him is a good idea. Like most things in life, there’s some balance needed in this. Looks certainly aren’t everything, but some level of physical attraction is pretty essential in a long-term relationship.

[Deleted User 172]

Attraction is complicated.
An unattractive person can become the most beautiful (physically) person you've ever met in your life. Once you get to know them you start seeing attractive qualities in their face, body, etc.

Just because someone is "ugly" at first doesn't mean they won't become beautiful to you later.

Meh, an ok looking guy can certainly become a lot better looking, but if you truly think a dude looks like a rhino’s ass I don’t think perusing a romantic relationship with him is a good idea. Like most things in life, there’s some balance needed in this. Looks certainly aren’t everything, but some level of physical attraction is pretty essential in a long-term relationship.

Hahahaha. Rhinos ass. No, if he looks like a rhinos ass i would definitely not attempt any romantic relationship with him.
However if he was initially unattractive to me for reasons other than looking like a rhinos ass i would attempt friendship first.
I've met some super hot my age men who acted like 12 year olds and meh men that acted like men.

[Anonymous 10]

Because only unattractive men approach me

Nope. It is you're vibes.

Try boosting your self-confidence, display your sense of humor a bit more, and smile lots.

[Valentina327]

Maybe it's because you're walking around thinking you're ugly. They're picking up on that.

[Smarties]

Whats that song?

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you.

[Anonymous 2]

I love it!

Whats that song?

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you.