This.scemily526 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 8:28 am um...block his email, and get yourself some much needed counseling on how to stand up for yourself, and stop allowing behaviors like that
Stop letting him control you.
This.scemily526 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 8:28 am um...block his email, and get yourself some much needed counseling on how to stand up for yourself, and stop allowing behaviors like that
Maybe you are a stronger person then me then. I’m not trying to make excuses. I’m not trying to be weak. I’ve just been plagued with guilt for years. I met my ex when I was young. He has had the upper hand on me for 20+ years. He has always got me to do what he wants. When we were married I was a puppet to him.MrsDavidB wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:17 amI am divorced. (13 years divorced from ex, 2 boys) I made it clear from minute 1 he is no longer a part of my life. I shared nothing. I made myself unavailable for him to harass me, charm me, whatever. I truly wanted nothing to do with him. You are giving him a vibe that you will put up with his sh*t and entertain him. No more calls. Email only. He shows up somewhere go sit in your car with a book. He will get the hint if you are firm. It's hard to have compassion when you keep doing the same things over and over and wonder why he is still bothering you.Anonymous 3 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 9:38 amI didn’t involve him. We have 3 kids together. I can’t change that. If you’ve never had to deal with this type of situation then your lucky. I try my best not to engage with him. Like when we had sports practice for the kids. I take them but he shows up. He tries to talk to me. I sit far away from him and I avoid him. I admit I have issues. I do my best.
Please have compassion. If not for me just have compsssion in your life.
It's just another way of stating that you are using your intuition as a 6th sense. Anyone can master it. But they tend to use this as an excuse as to why they are vulnerable to a narcissist. When in fact we accept what we think we deserve in love and friendships alike. It has zero to do with being intuitive. Why not use your intuition when you are dealing with him? LOL hope this helps.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 8:28 amA therapist told me this. And my sister. I honestly just thought everyone was like that. I just have a hard time not letting other people’s emotions impact me. I feel bad for people like it’s me in the situation and it paralyzed me and makes me do things that aren’t in my best interest.
I’m almost ashamed to say because of everyone’s harsh judgement of me. But once he forced me to kiss him when I was dating someone. I felt so guilty like it was my fault I broke up with the guy. I doubt anyone here understands but sometimes a woman blames herself for being raped and mistreated and I’ve had a habit of that for years. Just stuff like that. He knows how to say the right words so I feel guilty and I do what he wants.Anonymous 3 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:20 am what is he actually doing thats ruining your relationships? I mustve missed that part.
I didn’t say my sister was one. I said a licensed therapist said I was. My sister said I was one. She’s a social worker. I honestly don’t care if I’m one. I’m very sensitive and people influence and affect me. I easily feel guilt and absorb other people’s emotions. It’s exhausting honestly.Anonymous 4 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:40 amI did a thesis on this subject one year.
It's usually said by someone who needs to feel special or different in some way.
It often accompanies one or more mental illnesses.
Less than 2 percent of the population would meet the criteria of being an empath.
The chances of her and her sister both being empaths, is undoubtedly astronomical.
People often confuse being empathetic or highly sensitive with being an empath.
They are not at all the same thing.
Also, I wish she what answer what type of therapist dx'd her as an empath.
Thank you. I’m trying. I need to work on stuff.Lotus wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 1:03 pmIt's just another way of stating that you are using your intuition as a 6th sense. Anyone can master it. But they tend to use this as an excuse as to why they are vulnerable to a narcissist. When in fact we accept what we think we deserve in love and friendships alike. It has zero to do with being intuitive. Why not use your intuition when you are dealing with him? LOL hope this helps.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 8:28 amA therapist told me this. And my sister. I honestly just thought everyone was like that. I just have a hard time not letting other people’s emotions impact me. I feel bad for people like it’s me in the situation and it paralyzed me and makes me do things that aren’t in my best interest.
Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 8:28 amA therapist told me this. And my sister. I honestly just thought everyone was like that. I just have a hard time not letting other people’s emotions impact me. I feel bad for people like it’s me in the situation and it paralyzed me and makes me do things that aren’t in my best interest.
I'm sorry to both of you. Stuff like this might never end as long as you don't get control of it.Bubbs wrote: ↑Wed Jan 09, 2019 2:13 pm I know you feel bad, but you probably feel worse by entertaining him.
It’s hard, I know. But you have to shut him down every single time. Cry about it after you do (not so he knows) but shut it down. If he’s a narcissist, they feed off of it ( the hoovering).
And I know it’s easier said than done, if it’s anything like I’m going through, it’s like an addiction. If it’s not about the kids end the conversation, delete the email and ignore him.
Email communication only,