Asian Massage Parlors

[wildflowers25]

How do you know that there are actual S*x acts going on there?

Because it's never been a secret.

There are legit ones out there.

There are also a lot that aren't.

[Inmybizz]

So, what do you plan to do?

[Guest]

Disgusted is exactly how I feel. I am out of town working and when I get home, I'm not sure I'll be able to look at him without disgust and contempt. And I agree, it was for some cheap thrill as I know how he thinks to an extent. He would have a stroke if he knew that I knew about his little secret.

There will be a shift in our relationship now that I finally have confirmation.

I'd be so disgusted. The effort these guys go to and for nothing more than a cheap thrill.

There are two of those places within a couple hours drive of where we currently live. I keep waiting for them to get busted but I guess they have some influential clients to protect them.

[Guest]

Nothing for the moment. I have no idea long term.

Any suggestions?

So, what do you plan to do?

[MrsDavidB]

Why won't you divorce?

[Inmybizz]

Nothing for the moment. I have no idea long term.

Any suggestions?

So, what do you plan to do?

Idk..I'm a bit different then most. I try to talk things out and see if a relationship can be saved/rebuild trust rather than suggest divorce immediately. I would need to hear the whole story- was it just a massage or was S*x involved.
Any idea why he feels the need to go to a massage parlor?
Have you two been going through a rough patch?

[Guest]

Because we have a lot of business interests that are together. It would be a nightmare. I run them all and would come out WAY on top (I actually have more money than he does) but it would be more trouble than it's worth. We have kids, grandkids...there's no point really as I would not be out man hunting for another husband. I don't care that much.

If anything I can see me kicking him out of the bedroom.

Why won't you divorce?

[Guest]

You can bet there was S*x involved. I would suspect just an "erotic massage of certain body parts" but who knows really? He's very OCD so I can't imagine it being much more than that but I really couldn't imagine him being this stupid so what do I know?

When we were dating, I asked him if he had ever been to a prostitute and he admitted that he had though a massage parlor. But that was many years ago and I would young, dumb and naive and thought he would NEVER do something like that if he had a wife there to keep him happy. (Yes, I know that's dumb)

I've read that men who have erectile dysfunction sometimes go to this. I don't think he was doing this throughout or marriage. Probably just the last couple of years since he's not been interested in me. (And not been able to get it up well). He won't do the whole viagra thing so I'm sure he feels less pressure about his problem going to a professional.

I haven't been going through anything with our marriage other than his lack of interest. Everything has been the same which IMO has been damn boring. And I'm sure it's been boring to him too. Like someone said....this is a cheap thrill for him.

So pathetic.

Nothing for the moment. I have no idea long term.

Any suggestions?

So, what do you plan to do?

Idk..I'm a bit different then most. I try to talk things out and see if a relationship can be saved/rebuild trust rather than suggest divorce immediately. I would need to hear the whole story- was it just a massage or was S*x involved.
Any idea why he feels the need to go to a massage parlor?
Have you two been going through a rough patch?

[RedBottoms]

I really like the youtube videos of legit asian massage and spas. They look very good and I bet it feels amazing. But I am totally scared to try to go to find one because I worry they are going to try to masturbate me or something and I have to be like "WOAH! I just wanted some thai massage!!!!"

[RedBottoms]

Nothing for the moment. I have no idea long term.

Any suggestions?

So, what do you plan to do?

I would just talk to him about it and then see what he has to say. Then probably marriage counseling. Remind him that he does not want his face on the newspaper for being busted in something like that. Remind him how that will embarrass him and his kids and grandkids etc.