I wanna be pissed at him. IDK if I should though

[Anon]

I would call him and ask him what up. Why has he went silent

[wildflowers25]

It sounds like he cooled off on the relationship and isn't interested. I'd just quit contacting him. If a man wants to talk to you, he will no matter what is going on in his life. I have a feeling he bit off more than he could chew being with a woman who has a child and now he's hoping you'll take the hint and go away. Do yourself a favor and drop the guy.

[Lotus]

Long story short.
I have a bf. We used to talk all day every day. Used to spend every weekend together, used to spend almost every night together and if we weren't together sometime during the day we'd at least be chatting.
A couple nights ago I had to take my son to the ER. We were chatting via FB messenger at the time. It was late and I told him about taking my son to the ER. He expressed sympathy, asked what happened etc.
I knew he had to work the next day so I wasn't surprised when he stopped answering me around 11 pm and went to bed.
I haven't heard from him since.
So IDK what to do now. He was the one that proclaimed we were exclusive, but I haven't heard from him the entire weekend. He didn't even call/text me to see how my son was doing after our ER visit.
It's been going on like this for a while now. The chatting has ceased to barely saying hi throughout the day. A few weeks ago I didn't hear from him for like 3 days straight, then when I texted him and was like hey whats up why you been ignoring me he was adamant that he wasn't ignoring me.
I call bullshit.
I call break up.
I'm sick of it. If I can't be a priority then I can't be someone in your life. Especially if you were the one that said we were exclusive. Makes no sense really.

And before anybody asks, he's never been married, has no kids.
Sorry, I had to vent this out. Maybe get some opinions. I've been holding it in for a while and I needed to say something.

yes, its unfortunate he cant be a grown ass man and be up front with you.
He's moving on.

[SeekingPeace]

For what it's worth, I don't think you are pathetic. I think if at one time you were seeing each other more regularly and now you go for days without seeing him, you have every right to be wondering what's up. Have you talked to him about it? If you have expressed to him that you don't like that he goes missing for days and he continues to do it, you may want to re-evaluate the relationship.

Either way, I wouldn't sit around waiting for him. Go out and have fun!

Good luck to you!

We've been together over a year. I'm 34 and he's 36.

You are far too old to be so upset about something like this. If you dont like the fact that you go with no contact sometimes talk to him about it and work it out. If you cant or you dont want to do that then leave. I thought you were going to say you were 20 or something.

Oh I totally get it. That's part of the reason I'm pissed off. I'm sitting here feeling like I'm a damn 17 year old being pissed because he didn't call. How pathetic?! And it's totally pathetic. I just had to get it off my chest, vent it, speak it so it didn't keep eating me up.

This is my first relationship after my divorce though. I barely know the waters I'm treading right now. I can't make any sense of it. Is this what I have to look forward to with dating? Just a bunch of stupid confusion and BS? If so I'd rather not deal with it at all.

[Inmybizz]

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LOL!!
I love this.

[Inmybizz]

So...have you called him?

[WickedLauraBelle]

I'm in the same boat kinda. I'm over it

[Valentina327]

We've been together over a year. I'm 34 and he's 36.

You are far too old to be so upset about something like this. If you dont like the fact that you go with no contact sometimes talk to him about it and work it out. If you cant or you dont want to do that then leave. I thought you were going to say you were 20 or something.

Oh I totally get it. That's part of the reason I'm pissed off. I'm sitting here feeling like I'm a damn 17 year old being pissed because he didn't call. How pathetic?! And it's totally pathetic. I just had to get it off my chest, vent it, speak it so it didn't keep eating me up.

This is my first relationship after my divorce though. I barely know the waters I'm treading right now. I can't make any sense of it. Is this what I have to look forward to with dating? Just a bunch of stupid confusion and BS? If so I'd rather not deal with it at all.

Men think different than we do. They don't need constant attention and reassurance like you seem to. Definitely work on your self confidence and don't be so needy. He may have figured your kid was sick so he's giving you space. Maybe the way things were before was suffocating him.

I'd be irritated talking all day every day and all weekends together and seeing each other all week. That's too much. I work all week, I have meetings over the weekend - I can't be hanging on the phone all week.

Maybe he's feeling a little strangled. The only way you'll know is to ask him. Calmly, not when you're all amped up.