I broke up with him when I found out he had a DUI

[WickedPissah]

Is there a reason why you're telling us this?

[mcginnisc]

Many tee totalers have their reasons and it doesn't make them boring. Some lived with alcoholic parents and were abused or neglected by them, some have had people they love killed by drunk drivers, and others like my GMIL were beaten by 2 husbands that drank too much. She left one, and the last one she hit with a skillet after a beating from him. It was the last time he ever drank alcohol and they lived happily ever after until he died from cancer 22.5 years ago.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.

Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.

Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

[Shaken1976]

I had a coworker go out to his car after leaving a bar. He was getting something out of it before his ride arrived. He was arrested for DUI. This was about ten years ago. Would you hold that against him?

[jas]

Good luck in finding that perfect person who has never made any kind of mistakes in their life.

[RedBottoms]

Many tee totalers have their reasons and it doesn't make them boring. Some lived with alcoholic parents and were abused or neglected by them, some have had people they love killed by drunk drivers, and others like my GMIL were beaten by 2 husbands that drank too much. She left one, and the last one she hit with a skillet after a beating from him. It was the last time he ever drank alcohol and they lived happily ever after until he died from cancer 22.5 years ago.
Do I think the OP was rash? Maybe so.. however, I have to agree with her that drinking and driving is horrible and there is no reason at all to take the risk. He had a DUI so the odds are he was pretty drunk or high..it is pretty rare that someone that tests above the limit is sober. There is so much risk involved to the driver, any passengers and innocent people on the road to risk it IMO. For the OP to have that visceral of a reaction to him having a DUI, she probably has had someone she loved or knew injured or killed by someone under the influence.

Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

No, they are boring and high and mighty whatever their reasons. I had an alcoholic father-but I still drink. I don't care if others drink. I just don't have my panties crammed up my ass. Because I can separate the difference between drinking responsibly and being an alcoholic/irresponsible drinker.

The tee totalers I know don't ever see a difference. Someone who has one cocktail at dinner with friends in their eyes is JUST as bad as the guy drinking a 12 pack every night of his life and then beating his wife and kids. They see no difference. Trust me, I know. My inlaws are tee totalers and they acted like I murdered God in front of them because I wanted a glass of wine with Thanksgiving dinner.

I have no tolerance for people like that

[madfoodie]

Sounds like he learned his lesson from it. How long ago did this happen? Should it be held over his head for life?

I was wondering how long ago and if it ever happened again. People do learn from their mistakes.

[jas]

Unless someone you know was killed in a dui accident, I don’t see how this would be a deal breaker. I bet a large majority of people you meet have been over the legal limit and drove but didn’t get caught.

Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

If you have to drink to have fun there's something wrong with you.

[RedBottoms]

I had a coworker go out to his car after leaving a bar. He was getting something out of it before his ride arrived. He was arrested for DUI. This was about ten years ago. Would you hold that against him?

this. Plenty of people get DUIs and they are bullshit. Like they were just sleeping it off in their car and not actually going anywhere. And here the limit is so low that you could literally not be impaired at all and still be over the limit. I know a guy that walked the line in a handstand perfectly straight and they still gave him a DUI. But anyone knows that a drunk person could not successfully walk the line in a handstand. So was he really impaired? Probably not.

[RedBottoms]

Most of my friends dont even drink socially. So I highly doubt that. I would not be friends with anyone if I found out they had driven drunk. It is unacceptable to me.

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

If you have to drink to have fun there's something wrong with you.

I can have fun lots of ways. But I also enjoy a drink. And there is nothing wrong with that. The people with mental issues are people like my inlaws that got the vapors because I wanted ONE glass of wine at dinner.

[jas]

oh so you are a tee totaler. I would tell that guy to RUN from you. Tee totalers are so boring

If you have to drink to have fun there's something wrong with you.

I can have fun lots of ways. But I also enjoy a drink. And there is nothing wrong with that. The people with mental issues are people like my inlaws that got the vapors because I wanted ONE glass of wine at dinner.

No, there's nothing wrong with that. People with mental issues have issues. Not all teetotalers have mental issues though.