Totally understand not wanting to invest in "formal wear" but I think there are quite a few other choices. Plain black slacks and a nice top is not unusual to see at weddings. Thrift stores have racks of fancy dresses for low cost as they generally don't get much wear. Facebook and Nextdoor have folks selling dress clothes frequently for the same reason. I recently borrowed a beaded sweater to wear with linen dress slacks for a wedding, and I doubt anyone even noticed what I had on anyway. Wedding attire is much more casual these days and lot's of women wear slacks.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Fri Feb 16, 2024 11:40 amWell I sure as hell couldn't go in jeans.MonarchMom wrote: ↑Fri Feb 16, 2024 7:36 am IMO going to the first wedding has nothing to do with this. Not wanting to buy a dress or give a speech is also irrelevant. Just don't do those things.
Your decision will impact the future relationship you have with your brother and his family. If you want to have the opportunity to continue or possible improve the relationship, then show up on this important day in his life.
Bottom line - your brother seems to want you there. If you choose not to go that will be noticed. What you wear, not so much.